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  • in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #336602
    Chloe
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    Hi anita, I of course want a monogamous committed long term relationship but looks like it will be impossible ???

    in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #336534
    Chloe
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    Hi anita, thanks alot for the wise words and sorry for my late replies as I was quite in a bad shape recently.

    I know 99.99% of people will advise me to walk away but currently I think Im still in the bargaining stage, therefore could you let me know what I can do in this situation to make him reconsider, given we have gone no contact?

    in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #336170
    Chloe
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    Basically she said they have never ever broken up, just having a hard time but still seeing each other and he kept assuring her that he wanted to be with her and would finish with me.

    He said they indeed broke up but the break-up was very difficult and dragged on therefore they still had to meet to talk thing thru, he assured me that he wanted to be with me and would try to end the complicated break-up process.

    Then I became more and more suspicious of him because I believed that she has no incentives to lie while he has lots of incentives to do so. Therefore I intensively confronted and insisted that he had to be distant to her OR we would finish. He eventually chose to be back to her and cut off with me.

     

    in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #336040
    Chloe
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    Thanks for that anita. Is there any channels that I can message you privately?

    in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #335910
    Chloe
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    Hi anita,

    Yes you are right here

    ‘I don’t think it is a good idea to take what his now girlfriend said to you as the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. After all, she is a troubled woman, to want back a man who cheated her so many times, according to her words. Part of what she told you may not be true.

    You wrote: “it was so perfect until the very last minute”- how was it perfect, and did he share with you anything about his life?’

     

    I found it hard to believe fully he and she said as there were many mismatches in each of their version. Since then I didnt have a chance to talk to them in person as Im far away for a long time so I eventually didnt know the full truth which I truly wanted to. When he explicitly mentioned he couldnt cut ties with her, I know its no long worthy to get involved in anything so we broke up via text…but deep down inside, I would like to know the truth, what should I do now.

    in reply to: He cheated on his ex with me and now got back to her #335762
    Chloe
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    Thanks Anita. And sorry my wording is not correct. He cheated on his gf with me. They havent broken up during the time, they just had rocky times and the gf wanted to continue the relationship although she had been cheated on many times.

    I felt extremely sad, hurt and insecure now but I didnt know how to get over it.

    in reply to: Husband does not communicate or connect #224321
    Chloe
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    Hi anita,

    I had a same issue here and what you explained make sense to me. Im also not good at communicating so would be ok if I can somehow message you privately for advice on how I can comminicate differently?

    Thanks alot.

    Chloe
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    Hi Anita and Ayumi,

    Such a nice coincidence that my case is similar to yours and I cant help registering to the forum to reply. Anita, your questions are logical so could I also present my case?

    1. I kept suggesting a break multiple times whenever we couldnt reach an agreement in order to make him compromise. He did to a certain extent at first but gradually fed up with me and ignored me.

    2. I said lots of harsh words and insutled him alot as Im very bad-tempered and becoz what he did to me is quite disrespectful, i.e. didnt show up on plans and didnt explain, didnt sorry etc

    3. I started the fight few months ago and since then we never actually rekindled as he kept avoiding me when Im mad rather than mutual discussion, which drives me crazy and more and more mad over the months.

    Thanks alot.

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