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  • in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377244
    Gigi
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    I have left home since I was 15 and really navigated life and world on my own since then. I only get to see my parents when I go home to visit my grandmother who took me when i was child and saved me fr the abuse. I look up to her more as my mother. I now live in London. Thanks for everything Anita. Im moving on. Onwards and upwards.

    in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377201
    Gigi
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    Hi Anita,

    Once again thank you. I will have to let it go and let time heal my wound. I dont want any drama in my life. Forgiving him is a gift to myself. Im civil with my parents. Haven’t talked about it really. Maybe one day when I have the chance, I will so I can also heal from this.

     

    in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377197
    Gigi
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    Thanks for the reply Anita. It did strike a chord to me what you said. I was physically abused by my mother. She thought it was her way of disciplining me as a child. But it was not. As a child I didn’t know why she did what she did. I was being hit by my mum with a hard stick and the anger and the humiliation I have experienced as a child.

    I believe Im justified in harming him because he wronged me and I must get him to feel as bad I feel. So I completely believe I am right. There is no doubt or question this is what he deserves and I need him to do something, apologize or whatever to set things right.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by Gigi.
    in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377140
    Gigi
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    Thanks Anita!

    I dont plan to really go further. I just wanted him to know how he made me feel thats why I made up the idea of handing the photos and chat history to his wife. Though I could have. Ot should I?

    The problem with me is that Im not able process certain emotional states through a usual process. Meaning when I feel rejected or lied to or wronged I get caught. Im not able to feel bad and then move on. My mind gets gets caught and I obsess. I become enraged and can’t stop.

    in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377132
    Gigi
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    to suffer and that I will let inform his wife of the exchanges. This was brought about my anger. And he replied. But the exchanges was too toxic.

    in reply to: I found out he was married and Im obsessing about him #377126
    Gigi
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    It was an email asking him why he did what with the belief that I have a right to punish someone because he “wronged me” and  I pursue actions with that intent

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