Hi, I couldn’t log in but I finally managed. My lashing out included yelling, screaming, throwing dishes on the floor and calling my daughter names. Hard to say but problems started when she was 12. It’s been awful for both of us. Working 55 hours plus studying for a master’s degree left each of us isolated, frustrated and alone. It’s only recently that she told me that the sexual assaults by her first boyfriend was the catalyst for her behavior. Underlying is the thought that I abandoned her to my job. I was a single parent for those 12 years, her father committed suicide when she was two. You’re right about my life not working well. I had a total breakdown, I sold everything nice we had and moved to the middle of nowhere with a man that couldn’t cope with the arguments and behaviors. I moved out because we argued constantly. My daughter and I ended up living in an old unfinished trailer. With lots of help from the community the trailer is finally livable. Still old and banged up but warm and dry.