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    James Gummer
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    Most of my anxieties are created by thoughts of what might happen in the future. I’m learning to question those thoughts and asking myself if those ideas are even real.

    Negative thought: She hasn’t called me so she doesn’t like me anymore.

    Balanced thought: I don’t know that.  Actually, there could be hundreds of reasons why she hasn’t called me. Maybe she’s busy, or fell asleep, or is working late, or her phone broke/ran out of power, or there is an emergency or in her family, or she’s been abducted by aliens.

    The point is, there’s no evidence to prove anything. All of these are just thoughts.

    I think the Buddha may have been the first  cognitive behavioral therapist.

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    James Gummer
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    I love the compliments idea, too!

    Lately, My personal practice has been to NOT say what I’m thinking. Most of the tiny things that loved ones do that get on my nerves are just that- tiny things.

    There’s no real payoff to starting an argument or causing hurt feelings over something tiny, like the toothpaste cap.

     

     

    #30356
    James Gummer
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    Happiness is my puppy stealing a sock and then not running away until he’s sure I’ve noticed he’s stolen it.

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