Thanks Anita, I will do 🙂

It’s impossible to send a direct message which makes it quite challenging. I’ve cancelled the delivery. You’re right, I don’t know her from a bar of soap. Sometimes a picture says a thousand words though. My thought process was I’d rather risk being thought of as a stalker than not ever meeting her.

I know her name. I did consider the fact that it’s at her workplace, I think the only thing that could be potentially embarrassing for her is if her colleagues didn’t know she was doing online dating, and they read the card. But I needed to mention the app so she knows why/how I’m contacting her. I guess I could not mention how I know of her and then only explain if she contacts me?

Thanks for your help.

I’ll let you know how it goes. Thanks 🙂

Hi Tami, we definitely both want to make it work. She has given me no reason lately to doubt that. I realised that because I am not emotionally fulfilled, I have been acting super needy and constantly seeking attention and reassurance and also being hyper-sensitive. I am also insecure and jealous so it’s not a great combo. When I’m with her it’s pretty great but I have developed a complete aversion to any social event with her because I will constantly be worrying about any guy that talks to her. Basically my instinct is to try and shut her off from the world because of the anxiety its causing me. When I’m away from her I get into a complete neurotic state. There is definitely a strong attachment which I realise is unhealthy. Most of the attachment articles I’ve read seem to focus on understanding that nothing is set in stone and people come and go etc but it’s not really helping me. I think she is also ‘attached’ to me but much less so because she is more secure than me. Also, she doesn’t have to contend with every other girl vying for my attention. I’m getting to a stage where the pain of being together makes me want to escape but I also can’t bring myself to do it.

Thanks for the replies LostOne and Anita. I think some time abroad is what I need. Building up the confidence to take the leap when I have sellable skills or faith in myself is the next challenge.

Anita – I have been to a few psychologists. I find them ludicrously expensive and not very helpful to be honest. I end up worrying more about the bill than the issue at hand.

Thanks for the replies, there are some compassionate people on here.