Hi Inky,

Thank you for your response.

1. Yes, their child is the first official grandchild. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and his family has been very loving to her. It is more his brother and sister-in-law that do not treat myself or my daughter as part of the family.

2. I guess regarding the money, I just find it interesting that they ask for money for their child’s dance and college when she is only 3 and they are re-doing their house, her room and have been re-modeling their business. I feel that if they want to ask grandparents that is one thing, but to send this out to the whole family and have it be expected is shocking.

3. Maybe I didn’t word the part regarding Socially Awkward appropriately. I brought this up more to explain why I find it difficult to deal with her.

The main reason for my original post is that I find I spend a lot of time worrying, playing out situations when it comes to being around them because I find that I am not myself. I was hoping to find information regarding how I can let go of the things I can’t change. I find that I am angry when I think about them, yet at the end of the day the only one who is suffering is me and I would like to stop that. I would like to be able to be myself around them, but I find that when I try to do that I feel as though I am being fake.

I hope some of this makes more sense and I appreciate the input.

Hi Anita,

Thank you for your response. I agree with your comment that there is no place for me in their lives, I just would like to have a better time getting along with them. I find that when I am with them, I shut down. I can’t speak or even be cordial and that bothers me as I am very open.

The reason I call her “socially awkward” is she only speaks when a direct question is asked to her and even then she usually responds with a laugh and then only answers with one word.

I would like to get along with them as they are “family”.