Hi Ms. Brandy yes  I do. Thank you for your sincere kind advice. Jo

Good Day Ms. Brandy Ms. Anita! Hurricanes storms heat weather is terrible! I am sitting thru a rainstorm now bored decided to check back in this forum. Ive read a lot of postings and cant believe how many diverse topics there is. You both are very active here! As for my posted situation thank you again for sound advice and honest thoughts. My neighbor and I have had Saturday lunch in the outdoor picnic area where we live he is such a good neighbor and nicest guy! Today because of all this rain he is coming here later for indoor lunch and hes going to put up a new light fixture for me in the foyer. Development since my last writing. Since my first posting I have not seen those swim shorts at the times when ive seen him in the pool. Last week he finished a swim and said hi while drying off. He had tropical multicolored palm tree surfer style swimwear on really colorful lovely island theme. I said they looked nice and liked the tropical scene. He got a little red said thanks Jo and was visibly awkward. I asked if I said something wrong he said not at all and then came over and mentioned those beige shorts that started this whole thing. He told me he realized they became somewhat sheer (“sheer” my word. his words “sort of see thru”) after he wore them in the pool a second time (which I did not see I only saw the first time). He said he felt ashamed and stupid and threw them right away. He apologized for me seeing him in them and felt too embarrassed to say anything before but since I commented on the new tropical ones he just had to get it off his chest. I reassured him not to worry it was okay nothing more to say. He smiled said thank you Jo and that he had to shower and hurried inside. I felt good relieved that it was over he knew about it he wont ever wear them again but also felt bad a little guilty he definitely knows what I saw. He will be here later and I want him to be comfortable around me nothing has changed. Ladies do you think he is ok I hope this did not effect us as neighbors or our friendship. Im sure since he saw exactly what I saw – that he knows I did not see him naked and that the fabric wasn’t completely transparent but the material did get sheer enough when wet to show some of that area particularly his hair underneath. So that being said him coming here in a little while will let me know where things stand. I will make no mention and go on as i normally would any other time. Hope hes the same. Ill check back here shortly please any thoughts advice or suggestions? Thanks. Jo

Thank you ladies for your input I misunderstood my apologies. This has been  a trying time for me as for everyone. I will move past this. I saw him yesterday swimming I was gardening and we talked when he got out of the pool. Again he was wearing dark navy colored swim shorts…neither his private area nor his hair there showed underneath the material whatsoever. I think he may have realized something or its just that hes not worn them again when Ive seen him. Definitely the color and manufacturer of the beige ones were the culprit and at fault  here.  Thank you both for helping me deal with this. This is a very good forum I am glad I found it. Jo

Hi Ms. Brandy thank you as well for your kind input. This forum is helpful and yes Anita is quite the communicator! Yes she did bring levity to the  subject with her (intended) pun. Your right  Ms.  Brandy now that its settled I agree the humor  of  it outweighs the seriousness. As you may have read I am not saying anything to him  about it. I agree it would bring embarrassment to him and possibly damage the nice neighborly relationship we have. He was swimming yesterday  wearing dark swim shorts that hes worn before so maybe he even realized  it later on that the beige shorts failed (as Ms. Anita stated). It is unacceptable that a garment made for swimming would become that sheer when wet  regardless of the color his neither his privates  nor his  pubic hair should  be visible thru the  material. Right? Also as Ms. Anita said which I copied from her last post – “how could you possibly not see that… it’s quite interesting, isn’t it: no matter how older we get, we still cringe the same way when we see certain things, cringe with a  mixture of disgust and .. some curiosity perhaps, or what do you call it.. the appeal of the taboo, or the appeal of the other side of shame.”  Yes indeed I  cannot “un-see” what I accidentally saw unintentionally  so  I have to get past the guilty feeling that I practically know how he looks like naked…although I didn’t exactly see him naked…but I invaded his personal privacy…if that makes any sense?  Im 67  hes 51 I suppose I took a maternal or  older sister approach to  this but it  is over and have to accept  it. Jo

Hi  Ms. Anita still trying to learn how to work  thru this forum.  I  decided not to say anything about it. No there are no children or young people just him his pool. I DO NOT believe he did it intentionally and I am positively certain he was unaware.  Yes your right I remember what I saw but  I don’t want him knowing that. I was talking with him outside yesterday (he was in clothes jeans and a t shirt) and yes it is still a bit awkward for me  but the memory should fade in time I would never want him to feel self  conscious  or embarrassed around me thus I  will never tell  him. Just to clarify they  were not “see-thru” (I said in my post) they became somewhat sheer after being in the water but they dried soon after and nothing was visible then. When I said I could see his private area yes because  of the color and fabric I could see the “outline” of his genitalia but he was still covered it was moreso his pubic hair that showed underneath the wet material if that explains it better. He was not naked the swimming  shorts were not transparent.  If not for his dark hair above his privates I may not have even realized anything was visible. Regardless I am not saying anything to him. It was an accident unintentional. Thank you Ms. Anita please post back  so I know you received my reply. Thank  you! Jo