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  • #365984
    JoJo
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    Hi Ms. Anita I am amazed at all that information it is so true and makes absolute sense! Everything you copied there from those sites explain all the issues that involve swimsuits. As I said I don’t wear swimsuits I haven’t in a long long time im not a swimmer or a beach person. Everything that you posted…from quality to fabric to properly lined to texture to color to fit to expense…yes all factors when buying and wearing swimwear. No wonder I don’t! loll. Most remarkable the white swimsuits are such a problem I don’t know how anyone could wear that color…only 10 in 100 passed the test! With all this information you shared there is no doubt that people should be aware! Ms. Brandy hope you pass this all along too!  I agree with your point that whats true to white fabric was also true to his beige shorts (now gone). His dark ones and the new tropical island print one ive seen since cause nothing of the sort. Ironicaly I used to read Cosmo many years ago and maybe I should subscribe to it again! What that article says about nipples is an additional reason of concern for women as well as the bottom half. In his case of course that doesn’t apply and he doesnt have fair skin but definitely his hair is dark as I mentioned before and that hair above his genital area was most obvious thru the fabric. Makes so  much sense all 3 articles are excellent information thank you! Ms. Anita you’ve invested so much time I see so much effort you make in helping people here in these forums. I remember you said we are both near the same 60s age but you are much wiser and worldlier then I am. Ty! Jo

    #365983
    JoJo
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    Hi Ms. Brandy yes  I do. Thank you for your sincere kind advice. Jo

    #365931
    JoJo
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    Hi thank u Ms. Brandy & Anita for your kind encouragement! Lunch went great it was nice he seemed fine and I was relaxed. Yes my light fixture is up and looking good also! Ms. Brandy what you say about high quality non sheer swimsuits I don’t wear them I don’t swim never was a water or beach person but you make a valid point and maybe they should be checked wet in private before wearing in public I suppose unless the color is black or something. As an older mature old fashioned woman I felt wrong seeing that and felt guilty about how he would be embarrassed in front of me. It did take guts as you say Ms. brandy for him to say that to me knowing I saw what he saw when he realized what happened. Because I’m much older then he is he mustve felt the need to apologize to set the record straight. How are you making sure everyone is aware that this problem can occur? Did you recommend them to wet them and wear them first in private or maybe the bathroom? Remember his now discarded beige ones were perfectly fine and not see thru when dry it wasn’t until they got wet and out of the pool that they distinctly revealed his hair thru the fabric. I don’t think its necessary for dark or colorful ones because they shouldn’t become sheer. Glad I made you and possibly others aware of this and help avoid embarrassment it may cause the wearer and others. Jo

    #365787
    JoJo
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    Good Day Ms. Brandy Ms. Anita! Hurricanes storms heat weather is terrible! I am sitting thru a rainstorm now bored decided to check back in this forum. Ive read a lot of postings and cant believe how many diverse topics there is. You both are very active here! As for my posted situation thank you again for sound advice and honest thoughts. My neighbor and I have had Saturday lunch in the outdoor picnic area where we live he is such a good neighbor and nicest guy! Today because of all this rain he is coming here later for indoor lunch and hes going to put up a new light fixture for me in the foyer. Development since my last writing. Since my first posting I have not seen those swim shorts at the times when ive seen him in the pool. Last week he finished a swim and said hi while drying off. He had tropical multicolored palm tree surfer style swimwear on really colorful lovely island theme. I said they looked nice and liked the tropical scene. He got a little red said thanks Jo and was visibly awkward. I asked if I said something wrong he said not at all and then came over and mentioned those beige shorts that started this whole thing. He told me he realized they became somewhat sheer (“sheer” my word. his words “sort of see thru”) after he wore them in the pool a second time (which I did not see I only saw the first time). He said he felt ashamed and stupid and threw them right away. He apologized for me seeing him in them and felt too embarrassed to say anything before but since I commented on the new tropical ones he just had to get it off his chest. I reassured him not to worry it was okay nothing more to say. He smiled said thank you Jo and that he had to shower and hurried inside. I felt good relieved that it was over he knew about it he wont ever wear them again but also felt bad a little guilty he definitely knows what I saw. He will be here later and I want him to be comfortable around me nothing has changed. Ladies do you think he is ok I hope this did not effect us as neighbors or our friendship. Im sure since he saw exactly what I saw – that he knows I did not see him naked and that the fabric wasn’t completely transparent but the material did get sheer enough when wet to show some of that area particularly his hair underneath. So that being said him coming here in a little while will let me know where things stand. I will make no mention and go on as i normally would any other time. Hope hes the same. Ill check back here shortly please any thoughts advice or suggestions? Thanks. Jo

    #363882
    JoJo
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    Hi Ms. B I’m just seeing your reply thank you! Its frustrating isn’t it how things are made I cant even buy quality socks without them getting misshapen after wearing a few times. All is good with my neighbor we had coffee outside this morning. Have not seen him wear those beige swim shorts again so unless a coincidence then I’m fixing to believe he must’ve became aware of it somehow possibly saw himself  in the mirror that day when he went inside. You bring up a  good point about polyester I didn’t think of the fabric blend. I read up on garments made of cotton, poly, and poly-cotton. It would explain why they were “clingy” on  him as polyester has that tendency and if the swimwear did not have an inner liner that would account for the “see-thru” aspect due to the color beige but I still believe regardless-poly or not-if they were a dark color then his hair would not have been visible underneath any type of material whatsoever. Combination material and color without a liner my conclusion. Thank you for that info have a good day!  Jo

    #363509
    JoJo
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    Thank you ladies for your input I misunderstood my apologies. This has been  a trying time for me as for everyone. I will move past this. I saw him yesterday swimming I was gardening and we talked when he got out of the pool. Again he was wearing dark navy colored swim shorts…neither his private area nor his hair there showed underneath the material whatsoever. I think he may have realized something or its just that hes not worn them again when Ive seen him. Definitely the color and manufacturer of the beige ones were the culprit and at fault  here.  Thank you both for helping me deal with this. This is a very good forum I am glad I found it. Jo

    #363423
    JoJo
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    Hi Ms. Brandy & Anita to update he has not worn them since maybe he later realized it possibly when he went inside if he saw in the mirror who knows. Hes  said nothing  and doesn’t seem any different toward me. Ms. Anita why would I ever think of doing that to him? He did not know. A complaint to the swimming shorts manufacturer is a good idea but that’s for him  to do if he discovered how they  became sheer. But why go against him hes a great neighbor and I am certain did not know at that time although maybe now he does and that’s why he has not worn them. The invasion he suffered by me seeing his privates and hair there.  thru poor quality material and construction. I was embarrassed I feel awkward now when I see him  yes but if I told him it would be he who feels his privacy violated by the maker  of the swim shorts. Right Ms. Brandy? Ms. Anita I don’t understand why  you suggested that. Jo

    #363105
    JoJo
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    Hi Ms. Brandy thank you as well for your kind input. This forum is helpful and yes Anita is quite the communicator! Yes she did bring levity to the  subject with her (intended) pun. Your right  Ms.  Brandy now that its settled I agree the humor  of  it outweighs the seriousness. As you may have read I am not saying anything to him  about it. I agree it would bring embarrassment to him and possibly damage the nice neighborly relationship we have. He was swimming yesterday  wearing dark swim shorts that hes worn before so maybe he even realized  it later on that the beige shorts failed (as Ms. Anita stated). It is unacceptable that a garment made for swimming would become that sheer when wet  regardless of the color his neither his privates  nor his  pubic hair should  be visible thru the  material. Right? Also as Ms. Anita said which I copied from her last post – “how could you possibly not see that… it’s quite interesting, isn’t it: no matter how older we get, we still cringe the same way when we see certain things, cringe with a  mixture of disgust and .. some curiosity perhaps, or what do you call it.. the appeal of the taboo, or the appeal of the other side of shame.”  Yes indeed I  cannot “un-see” what I accidentally saw unintentionally  so  I have to get past the guilty feeling that I practically know how he looks like naked…although I didn’t exactly see him naked…but I invaded his personal privacy…if that makes any sense?  Im 67  hes 51 I suppose I took a maternal or  older sister approach to  this but it  is over and have to accept  it. Jo

    #362984
    JoJo
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    Ms. Anita yes thank you. Are we in the same age range? I  am 67. I appreciate your opinion and advise.  Yes your right I  was able to see thru and I still believe he was not aware and it was not intentional.  The shorts  were proper dry it was just when they became wet. They were swimming shorts not underwear and I fault not him  but the manufacturer of the garment.  When  they are in the water  or wet there is no reason his privates or his hair there should be visible. Agreed? It is my issue to deal with now I have to let it go. I suppose you could say I felt even guilty talking with him yesterday because he doesn’t know that I know somewhat how his private area looks like underneath his jeans. I am an old fashioned woman set in my ways.  Btw your pun (intended) made me chuckle it brought levity to this matter and maybe im being too serious about it. Thanks. Jo

    #362976
    JoJo
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    Hi  Ms. Anita still trying to learn how to work  thru this forum.  I  decided not to say anything about it. No there are no children or young people just him his pool. I DO NOT believe he did it intentionally and I am positively certain he was unaware.  Yes your right I remember what I saw but  I don’t want him knowing that. I was talking with him outside yesterday (he was in clothes jeans and a t shirt) and yes it is still a bit awkward for me  but the memory should fade in time I would never want him to feel self  conscious  or embarrassed around me thus I  will never tell  him. Just to clarify they  were not “see-thru” (I said in my post) they became somewhat sheer after being in the water but they dried soon after and nothing was visible then. When I said I could see his private area yes because  of the color and fabric I could see the “outline” of his genitalia but he was still covered it was moreso his pubic hair that showed underneath the wet material if that explains it better. He was not naked the swimming  shorts were not transparent.  If not for his dark hair above his privates I may not have even realized anything was visible. Regardless I am not saying anything to him. It was an accident unintentional. Thank you Ms. Anita please post back  so I know you received my reply. Thank  you! Jo

    #362974
    JoJo
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    I think your  right Ms.  Brandy I will just let it go I wouldn’t want to risk it either. Thank you! Jo

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