Dear Anita, again thank you for your reply 🙂 I feel sure that this is the right decision for me and my child and with every passing moment it is clear that this is what I must do.
I used to think if I did what he asked and tried and tried that the relationship would get better , but as time went on the more I gave the less I got the worse things seem to become . I can not imagine marrying this man and inflicting what really is sickness and abuse on my child who is happy, healthy and incredibly intelligent. How can I as a mother, watch that light being snuffed out by something so toxic ? Today he has not contacted me at all and it had very little effect on me, I carried on with my day .
I expect I will hear from him around a minute to midnight or get up to abusive texts in the morning telling me how selfish and uncaring I am blah blah blah , its always the same. He told me not to call him today so I haven’t and neither have I texted or anything , he might even block me on whatsapp, he’s done that a couple times before saying he didn’t want me to text him , and he expected me to call lol . I no longer care, I already feel free and there is a feeling in my chest not of pain and fear as it has been these past few months but of hope .
I am incredibly grateful to Tiny Buddha, you and everyone else who has help me to keep my head above water these past few months, even though I only posted a few times coming here and reading some of the posts and sound advice given has made me feel less alone . So to every one a great big THANK YOU xxxx
Peace and Love to all,
k8tyB

I think we will be having ” The Talk ” 🙂

Hi Inky , thank you for your reply . I’m definitely not going to get married soon as I really don’t want to be the nagging …”where are you ?” “what are you doing?” kind of wife . He said the question was inappropiate, untrusting and out of order and didn’t deserve an answer to which I said that I didn’t agree. He said if I come at him the way I did by saying he blatantly refused to answer the question he won’t tell me who he was talking to and what it was about. He also said calling him blatant made it seem as if he was doing something wrong.
I must say that I went out for half an hour after trying to talk to him yesterday and when I got back he was better and started saying he was on the phone with a friend overseas. The whole thing left a very sour taste in my mouth and I didn’t quite believe him then??
I know right Anita !!! why not just SAY, I really didn’t expect the reaction I got which leaves me feeling rather suspicious and i really, really dislike that feeling 🙁
And Kaye thank you x