It sounds like what you’re really upset about is that your husband kept his infidelity from you for all these years–he wasn’t completely open and honest with you when it happened, not the act itself. This man is the one you vowed to love, honor and cherish (and he made that same vow to you)…of course finding out that he was unfaithful at one time will feel like a terrible betrayal…you are allowing yourself to feel that pain and anger, which is natural. Those feelings have their place and time, but that time is past for you.

You have probably heard this many times before, but you have a lot to be thankful for in your marriage the way it stands today. Your husband loves you. He treats you with kindness and respect, and does his best by you. That, certainly, is something to be grateful for!

I hope that very soon you two do something fun that celebrates the joy that each has brought to the other–doesn’t have to be a special occasion…maybe dinner tonight!

One question, though–you say that the woman with whom he was unfaithful is still a part of your lives…how big a role does she play in your life? Have you spoken to her about how you are feeling (if possible and practical?)

Good luck to you.

From the point of view of someone who does art and does not put it up for sale, I can tell you that art changes the individual. The act of creation itself uplifts and inspires the spirit of the artist, and that emotion is transferred to the viewer (usually along with many other emotions the artist did not anticipate!) Aesthetics aside, a true work of art acts on the heart, mind and spirit of the one who created it and the ones who view it. In that sense, it will change the world, one person at a time.

As far as calling attention to and raising awareness of social issues, art can be instrumental, but as you have pointed out, possibly only to an elite few. That doesn’t mean an artist should not attempt to communicate such awareness. A particular position on a universal issue more than likely has great personal value to the artist, and there is that desire to communicate to others.

Just my $2.98.