Hey Azouz,

Its up to you whether or not clubbing is a deal-breaker, as everyone has their own activities (and should, for a healthy relationship). But there are a lot of red flags in the relationship. She is being manipulative and it seems that you may be incompatible. What are you looking for out of the relationship? Do you believe you are making the proper strides towards that and that she is a good partner for you?

You said “The very first foundation of our relation has been completely demolished.” Do you believe you can get that back or that you are just drifting and clinging on to memories? It is good to do a check-up with any relationship*.

*Noticed your last comment about No Contact so you can disregard some of what I said.

Just know your emotions are normal for grieving. Revenge is you living well and healthy.

Hi pussycatlover,

It isn’t wrong that you felt excited by building a connection with him. You’re human. You aren’t a fool. However, I notice you say how you “thought he just had a girlfriend” and that’s concerning in my opinion because as long as he is in a monogamous relationship, he is emotionally unavailable to you. In the future, it would be good to ask clear-cut questions and have better boundaries so that you know what is actually happening.

In addition, as he said he was flattered – he had knowledge of how you felt but did not reciprocate in the way that you had hoped. He continued speaking to you and giving you details when really, he should have been upfront and let you know that he was not interested in pursuing you.

I hope that you can heal well,

Lacienaga