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June 30, 2014 at 7:52 am #59936
Good Morning Dermot
Sounds like you have a good plan for how to start integrating into the world. You have gotten some great advice and it’s nice to see you are working things in to help you get started. The most important journey begins with that first step and I wish you all the luck in the word. You express yourself very intelligently and I have no doubt once people are able to get to know you there will be wonderful things in store for you. Please keep us updated on your progress and feel free to reach out anytime you need a place to talk or just vent. Have a great day.June 25, 2014 at 5:56 pm #59581
I understand what you are saying about avoiding people and I think that by reaching out to talk to others on here you have made a huge step. Even though it is hard for you to have face to face interactions with other people maybe you can try forming some friendships by talking to others on here. I imagine even this can be difficult for you as well but I’m sure there are many people who will listen and offer advice or even just have somebody to vent your feelings to. If you ever need someone to listen or even just to let off steam I would lend an ear. I may not be as young as you are anymore but I have kids your age and many of their friends call and message me for a neutral party to vent to. I hope that you can find comfort in knowing there are many of us here willing to help. Hang in there.June 12, 2014 at 12:58 pm #58725
When I was 17 I had a falling out with my mom over the person I was dating. I ran away from home as well. As time went by I got into another relationship that my mom didn’t like and as a result she didn’t go to my wedding and prevented my younger brother from going as well. I am 52 now and as time has gone by I have since mended fences with my mom but to be honest, it will always hurt that she wasn’t there for me on one of the most important days of my life. So from my experience I would say that you really should go to the graduation and really try to convince her dad to reconsider. Even to just sit in the crowd and watch without interacting if he prefers. Problems like this will eventually be resolved but the hurt she will carry by you not being there will never go away even after the relationship gets back on track. As far as the boyfriend goes she is so close to 18 that trying to cause issues there will only push her further from you and closer to him.June 11, 2014 at 3:04 pm #58642
I saw your post and feel compelled to respond to it. A lot of what you are describing is similar to what I am going through at the moment and I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Seeing your post has actually inspired me to respond to you. That feeling of flicking the switch is something I know all to well also. It is very encouraging that you recognize the struggle you are going through and are reaching out for help. That in itself is a huge step. I also notice that you mention that you have felt this way for the last 8 years so I can’t help but wonder if something happened to upset you enough to isolate yourself this way. I know for myself it was a combination of a physical illness I was dealing with and the death of someone I loved very much. Sometimes it’s easier to build walls and push people away to help protect us from being hurt. Hopefully by talking with people and getting tips for ways to help you find your way through the it you can work towards having a more fulfilling and happy life. You still have so much life ahead that is waiting for you to join in. Maybe you could start by using some of the exercise ideas that were given and also what another person said by just taking a short walk and looking around at the trees, flowers etc. If you have a dog you could take him along and start by just setting small goals and as you get more comfortable expand them a bit more. For instance walk to the corner of your street and back the first day and when you get home write down something you saw on the way. Once that gets easier lengthen the walk and the amount of things you write. You could also work up to maybe saying hi to someone you see on the way but start small and work up to things like that. I hope to see you back on here and would love to hear of any progress you make on the way. There are a lot of nice people on this site and I know a lot of us would be hear to talk and offer support.