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  • in reply to: How can I help my girlfriend feel better? #66547
    Tracey
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    Hi just noticed this post and wanted to stop by to say that you are a very thoughtful person. Not many guys would go looking for insight online to be able to help there partner or ex partner, so give yourself a massive pat on the back for that!!
    If she hasnt already went to her Doctor that would be the first port of call. She sounds depressed 🙁 I would definately make that the first bit of advice to give her. Then her Gp could advise and help.
    You have been through a lot with the sounds of things, be good to yourself also. Its easy to forget about yourself, but it is something that you need to remember. Chin up you are a good person 🙂

    Take care and remember look after yourself 🙂

    in reply to: TIME TO GET OFF THE ROUNDABOUT #66261
    Tracey
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    I know it is a hard road ahead and I need to give myself time to focus on my Mental and Physical health. I have soo much to give and I get so disappointed that I do not let myself shine and share the gifts that I have.
    I do suffer anxiety and without alcohol over the years I have found it hard to socialise ie joining new groups etc
    Its like sometimes I hide the real me and cover it over with this mega outgoing happy person on the booze that really inside I am not. I guess I am thankful that I can stand back and say “enough is enough” but I have said that before and then on the roundabout again!!

    Thanks for your message Inky. Hope all is well with you 🙂

    in reply to: Feeling incredibly lonely since the end of a relationship #63631
    Tracey
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    Hi Bren, that sounds so much like me about 8 months ago and I do still have my bad days… but it does get better and brighter. I also suffer anxiety which it got really bad with I split with my fiance. I had the extreme lonliness and lost feeling 🙁 it is the most horrible feeling. But I prayed that it would change and gradually it has. I do believe you must get out and socialise and meet new people. Not referring to men, but hey when you feel ready there is no harm in having some nice male company 🙂 … this was my second big split and serious heartbreak, I am 37 and I wish I could be guaranteed that it would never happen again, but unfortunately life is weird like that. Try and focus on trying to be strong for yourself and build up a good friendship circle. I made the mistake of dating a guy about 2 months ago and it made me worse as I was still anxious and wasnt ready mentally for it. Hugs to you and believe me it will get better and you WILL meet someone else and fall in love again. Life is all about LOVE 🙂 xx

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #63630
    Tracey
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    Awww Rahel…. I am only seeing this now I have been off for a while and focusing on other things. How are you keeping?? Did you start another post of your own for advice and support with your issues. I really do hope that you are feeling a little better. Hugs and Love to you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #61570
    Tracey
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    Thanks Rosamundi 🙂

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #61378
    Tracey
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    Aww Mags hopefully you are feeling better soon. NOt nice when things are on the low down.
    Its hard to keep positive at times but we have to give it our best 🙂 Hugs Tracey

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #61124
    Tracey
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    Mags are you on facebook? Or email?

    Tracey

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #61034
    Tracey
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    Hi Jane

    Yes my partner seems to be a little insensitive at times. He upset me the other week and brought flowers to me and apologised, this was the second apology. I am starting to realise that he seems to have some issues of his own and does not cope well when people are feeling down or negative etc. He seems to feed of other peoples moods and if they are having a bad day he will in turn fed off that and vice versa. I would like to see a future with him and at times I am so happy with him, but I would be lying if I said that I am always happy. I have had doubts about us as a match.
    As for the IVF we have discussed this and I know that he would love to have a child. That is a little complicated and a long way off yet so I am not immediately thinking of this. No I do not meditate I would not know where to start 🙂

    Tracey x

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #61033
    Tracey
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    Thanks for the reply mags. Im sure you have a very difficult time with no family etc. Would nice to chat to you again Mags and maybe wee could give one another a little comforting at time 🙂

    Tracey xx

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #60532
    Tracey
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    ps sorry me again. I know that you referred to walking or doing nice things for myself. However when I get so low when I feel that way it makes me depressed and I can just about go to my work every day. When I would get home the minute I step foot through the door I normally end up in tears. So its usually tea and bed. No motivation.

    in reply to: FEEL LOST AND ALONE #60530
    Tracey
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    Thanks for all the advice 🙂 I know you are right Matt but the problem for me is I have been like this all my adult life with these feeling of sad lonliness and has made me very depressed. I have tried to focus on self love and all of those things that you are talking about but still I find myself in this place. I dont want to be alone in the world for only myself to comfort me.

    Im not sure how to get yourself to that place of happiness and being able to sooth your own lonliness.

    Seems like a difficult task, but I am willing to do whatever to get rid of the awful feeling.

    I am a kind hearted lovely looking girl just cant get my head round why I feel so lonely all the time :-/

    Thanks All

    in reply to: Desperation For Love #60466
    Tracey
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    Thanks to all that replied. Having such a terrible time at the moment. I just feel drained. I do not know who to turn to all my friends are busy with their lives and their families. I have no children as I am infertile and in a relationship with a guy for the past 3 months and just dont feel any support from him at all 🙁 🙁 really saddens me. When I am having a difficult time and upset he does not give me any comforting words. Maybe this is just him but it is making me feel very lonely when really I should feel that I have him there as my guy to talk to and have a shoulder to cry on. I have tried to discuss with him a couple of times about be a bit more sensitive toward me when im not good, but he ends up getting angry and that upsets me ever more 🙁

    I have tried to make contact with my best friend of late who is having a tough time herself and she is preoccupied all the time.
    She is also spending alot of her time with another friend and I just feel that I am very alone in my thoughts and anxieties at the moment.

    I am struggling with alot of things. I want to be settled and have a loving man and hopefully have a chance to have ivf for a child. I just feel lost at the moment and can not find joy in anything 🙁

    I may as well be the only person on the planet.

    in reply to: CONFUSED ABOUT MY NEW PARTNERS SEXUALITY #60075
    Tracey
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    Well you are quite obviously anxious about the whole situation and the not knowing is keeping that vicious circle of anxiety going. I would say eventually you will accept and move on with you life together and put it behind you or it may come to the forefront were you realise that you cannot put what happened behind you and you may drift apart.

    Life has its own funny ways of working and whatever is right for you will happen. 🙂

    in reply to: CONFUSED ABOUT MY NEW PARTNERS SEXUALITY #59934
    Tracey
    Participant

    On a lighter note. After having a lengthly somewhat arguementative chat about this with him, we have turned a corner 🙂 I think I was slightly at fault also for not initiating intercourse enough and maybe he was slightly shy. I do see a lot of the XXY stuff going on but I am starting to accept that this is just the way he is. So im more positive and feel that we have gotten a little closer together 🙂

    Long may it last 🙂

    in reply to: CONFUSED ABOUT MY NEW PARTNERS SEXUALITY #59932
    Tracey
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    Ahhh lissy sounds like you have had it tough. It is understandable that both sexes can be confused about their own sexuality and I am fine with that. I just dont agree when thier partner could be used as a cover. I hope you are ok and that things are looking up for you. What made you decide to get back together?

    Tracey

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