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July 6, 2014 at 4:30 pm #60289
Thankyou for your response, you’re totally right about time being the biggest healer – I wish I wasn’t so impatient! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling lonely too, I can’t even imagine having to go through this without my friends. I hope you’re okay. Overcoming this strange, uncertain time in our lives will only make us stronger and better prepared for change. After all, life is change. Things have to move forward and we will learn to adapt to this. I’m happy we can understand each other’s difficulties and help each other.
If ever you’re feeling like it’s all too much to handle, I like to take a bit of time to write a list of all the positives in my life. I really do believe that making the effort to be positive can change things. That said, its also important to allow yourself to be sad and to really feel that emotion. I always feel better after a good cry – holding it in has never worked for me! I think that acknowledging your sadness is an important step to overcoming it. I keep my ‘positive’ lists in my purse and make sure that I can read them whenever I need to.
I’m thankful you reached out to me and I’m here if ever you need to vent at all 🙂 WE CAN GET THROUGH THIS!
-LJJuly 6, 2014 at 2:45 pm #60286
Thanks again for your kind words and Chelsea: I’m also glad to know I’m not the only one feeling a little lost at the minute! I’ve been feeling really strange all day today. Its an intense home sick kind of feeling again, mixed with loneliness. I’m not literally alone, I’m living with others but I’m finding it really hard to be apart from my boyfriend. I suppose you could say he was my main source of emotional support and it’s difficult not having that when I’m needing it most, especially with everything new happening in my life all at once.
I know phonecalls and facebooking etc are options but I guess sometimes you just want someone to physically be here with you through a crazy new journey. I’ve had a lump in my throat all day. The idea of not knowing when or IF he will come back into my life is something I’m finding very hard. I’m trying to surround myself with friends but all I need right now is my boyfriend. I’m having a pretty sad day but I hope you are all feeling ok!
Being a part of this forum is certainly a big comfort, it’s great to hear from you guys 🙂
-LJ.June 30, 2014 at 6:16 pm #59999
I am touched by your thoughtful response, thankyou so much for your kind words of wisdom 🙂 In the morning, I am going to write down some of the things you said and really take them in. Your comments on how change encourages personal growth definitely resonate with me and whilst this chapter of my life feels daunting at times, you have certainly made me look at things in a more positive way.
I’m ever so greatful,
Best wishes and kind thoughts to you,
-LJ.June 30, 2014 at 3:02 pm #59985
Have you ever thought about putting your feelings into an art form? Be it painting, poetry, music etc? I understand this isn’t exactly a solution, but my usual way of coping with any negative feeling is to try and make a positive from it and go from there. I paint and draw most days but I find that when I have a strong emotional feeling in my heart, it really produces my best work (I think most artists would say the same).
If you were to produce something creative, the internet is a great way to share it and create a dialogue about it. I think this might be good for you as getting feedback might build confidence and help you to bond with other people. I understand your condition makes it almost impossible for you to socialise with others, so perhaps something creative might help you to express yourself and your struggles and enable you to release some of your frustration.
In order to feel more comfortable around other people, it might help to sit and observe. I regularly sketch people in cafes, on the train, in the park etc. You can get a lot out of a human being simply by silently observing and capturing them.
My art teacher once told me “Wherever you are, your art will always remain a faithful companion. Use it to connect with the world around you.” It stuck with me and i’ve held it dear to my heart every since.
I wish you all the best!