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January 30, 2014 at 9:06 pm #50038
Like you have mentioned, when you expect something to happen and it doesn’t happen, you feel bad because there is a sense of self righteousness. You think that you can control the outcome of the situation. Hope on the other hand, you try your best for a desired outcome, and wish that it becomes true regardless. I think it has less self righteousness or ego. With hope, the bell doesn’t ring until it rings. With expectation, the bell has already rung. This is my input! 🙂January 25, 2014 at 9:27 am #49722
Thank you memm for that response. I’ll try to keep more alert on the details of the matter, thinking that it almost never end up how I would have imagined.January 5, 2014 at 11:31 pm #48466
You just do it… Don’t think about the process of change… You think that change would take time but it happens in an instant. Start to let go of all those negative feelings and thoughts you have listed, and start feeling positive NOW and don’t stop thinking POSITIVELY and never focus feeling positively! Your desire to think or feel those negative thoughts are shaping your future in a negative way. When you bring positive feelings and concentrate on it, your thoughts change also. Your state of being would “improve”. You gain more clarity, and how you can better move forward and make your life more fulfilling. “Be enthusiastic as hellllll!”
Some activities you may try could be: fitness, listening to positive upbeat music, hobbies, etc. just get your mind off from thinking that you’re not good enough or the environment has affected you because you’re not deserving enough. You have the power to change your own feelings and thoughts, not the other way around. When you reach a point where pain can no longer affect you, you have trained your mind to think clearly like a monk and become a more attractive human being… like a lotus flower.
🙂January 3, 2014 at 10:16 pm #48361
Take everything that you have just mentioned above, and never lose focus of it… every second of your life is now brand new with your new image… take baby steps…. see what you can start out with, one step at a time and increase your discipline as you would with muscles when you’re in fitness training. Short respone but it should help.
🙂 NamasteDecember 29, 2013 at 8:24 pm #47853
I’m going to become an outlier for myself and state something totally out of my regular commenting spectrum. From what I’ve read, it seems that you’ve done your homework, and have researched on various ground on which option suits you best. Even though laying out your choices and thinking about picking which one you’d like to choose, like as if someone were to bring you several grand dishes and you get to choose which food you like to eat, which is perfectly fine… but I think the question is… what food you want to eat… tune out your fears and negative what ifs… this is an important part of your life, and it would define your future. Know what drives you and find your core and work towards it or to stick to a path that’s closest to it. Everything else would stay: if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be… if not then maybe it’s not… Sometimes life’s a science… based on trails and failures…. when it’s finally perfect, then something new pops up….. Just because you’re scared of something doesn’t necessarily mean that it won’t happen… So trust yourself, and make the right decision 🙂December 4, 2013 at 9:47 pm #46239
Here is a big warm hug – “HUGGG” … Not only because you need it, but I need one as well. “WARM HUGGGG”November 28, 2013 at 9:40 pm #45935
So you are saying some artists are not open to other artist’s work? Due to their high ego…? I think it’s a problem if an artist is not open to works other than his or her own, hence narrow perspective…
I agree, it’s interesting to learn about what makes and distinguishes classical / historical artists from one another. Just like how I do enjoy hearing the works of a great classical composer (something I can recall) in mid of a classical music performance.
Would be nice to see someone create an awesome, inspiring, historically changing art…
…But your post really made me want to share my visiting remembrance from one museum….
I don’t know what it’s supposed to represent, but I saw an art piece presented at MOMA San Francisco (I think… Or it could be somewhere else) and it was a portrait of a bread slice. My sister and I laughed soooo much without trying to catch attention from other visitors… Of all that I could think of from that museum, that slice of white and not wheat bread stuck to my head till this day. We’re like joking and said like, “oh we could eat that…”
It was really new, but it was very interesting.
🙂November 28, 2013 at 7:29 pm #45931
Sometimes the best method to solve relationship problems is through communication. Present to her how you really feel, like you have did above and see what happens. Don’t place yourself in a spot of emotional abuse. To sum this up, this looks like a reckless relationship. You have a son and a daughter to protect and to look after. If you feel that truly her life’s at risk, seek her therapist and explain to him or her about this problematic situation and see what he or she can come up with. I’d like to elaborate, but I’m a bit buzzed with holiday wine and beer. Think simple, you have to do what is right for you and for your family, and what “you” truly want to do.
Good luck and I hope and pray for peaceful resolution
NamasteNovember 24, 2013 at 11:48 am #45708
The answer to your question: don’t look at life as a stressful challenge.
It’s funny how we think that by getting somewhere, like from point A to point B, we’ll be truly happy. We pass point B numerous times in our lives.
Be merciful in your goals. No one’s perfect, and everyone… and I mean everyone fails and don’t make it but only the few keep on trying.
All you really need in yourself to not feel like a failure is the will to get rid of those negative temptations, thoughts, feelings, etc. and to stay on the “positives”.
If your life is challenging, then “un-challenge” certain aspects; If you’re mad by not reaching your goals, maybe your goals are not meant to be achieved; If you like compliments based on looks only, then…. I don’t know what to say about that. I think they complimented you on the discipline you took to get your body the way it looked. So keep yourself disciplined.
…..But life and in fitness training, and etc., whatever you do, you don’t have to be a robot to achieve your goals. Be flexible in your spirit and your heart. You can achieve same goals by taking those two roads, but one is more “fulfilling to the soul” vs. “empty inside”. Hope for the best, and may grace be on your journey.
🙂November 14, 2013 at 1:47 pm #45313
Simple solution: quit smoking, get inspired about your work, stop browsing and instead focus on the reason why you want to become a manager, last and not least… find out what it is that your junior associates are doing that’s getting them that promotion and see if you can make some changes that’ll allow you to get that promotion! Some things are beyond your control, and some things aren’t. Take control of the things that are! If life’s a like a dusty closet, you can’t keep living on that dust now can you…!
Some people think engineer profession is a cool job… One thing to note: doesn’t matter what profession or life situation you’re in.. the people you envy so much have a set of problems on their own! you just don’t know it…. Be thankful for what you have~ If your heart tells you that you are meant to be a manager, then follow it…..
🙂November 14, 2013 at 1:36 pm #45310
You’re right about certain things. You can’t go back to the past and change it… I recently watched a movie, “About Time” where the main character can travel back in time to change situations -> events -> thus future. It was a great concept, but it does not exist in reality. Looking for ways to look back to negativity is unproductive and unfulfilling. We’re not computers -> we don’t have the capability to move a file to a trash bin, and to empty it, that is why it’s natural for those bad memories to pop up at any time. What you “can” do, is to discipline your mind to be focused on the present, to resist the temptation to be driven to those negativity and wrongful events, and to start correcting your life’s path as of this moment. Though correcting your life’s path is not always perfect, and it may take some time -> like you can’t lift 100lb dumbbell when you can only lift 10lb, but I think it’s the only way to prevent or to resist those temptations. Pardon my language but JENGA those structures you have written about… a mind map of looking back and trying to fix them is like bringing up x100 of those bad events in your mind. Because you’re able to define between what’s right and what wrong… hence you’re able to write this post: Follow your heart, and let your intuition be the guide to start making the right and correct decisions apart from what you believe is wrong. Discipline allows you to take control of things you can control in your life. Everything else, leave it to a higher being up above.
Thanks for sharing
🙂 -> 😉November 9, 2013 at 11:10 pm #45086
It’s great that you can be able to define what the problem is. Like most addiction that’s out there, it’s admitting that something is wrong is the first step towards improving it. I see that this is a problem you want to fix but you’re lacking the will power to make it so. What comes to my mind at this point is that through constant connection with your heart (about what you truly want) can help you make progress. You need to figure out why you would not want to drink heavily on week-end, smoke, gain weight, not exercise…. Is it because you want to have a better future? Get more meaning out of life? …. things like that. Complete knowledge of why these habits are bad can help you to change direction to a better and brighter future. You are like rest of us…. composed of a spiritual, mental, and body elements. Unify and strengthen these three elements! Constantly feel what it is that your heart desire, and let that intuition guide you every second of your rehab process. I pray you for the best! N never give up!!
NamasteNovember 6, 2013 at 10:29 pm #44941
Congrats on your first post! You seem like a very good hearted person, and you do care about this friend of yours. I think everything is just situation in life. Sometimes I see that situations direct what happens. If you happen to be at the right moment with this semi-acquantice at the right time, with the right motives, and the right environment your expression of feelings may come to him naturally. It’s usually trying to force things to happen leads to many stressful events and getting your feelings expressed in ways you didn’t want to have it expressed in my experience. I see that you have 2 months stay before you leave, and he’s working all the time which means timing may not be all too perfect, but it’s kind of like that for most people. Get your feelings expressed to him naturally and there’s nothing you need to worry about! Your heart is strong… with time, I’m sure the right situation would be presented to you and your feelings would be expressed in the way you want to have it expressed. Be sincere about your feelings, so you can receive that sincere feeling back to you.
🙂October 26, 2013 at 1:14 am #44381
This post seems very serious so I hope more people would follow upon the comments and not just me. It seems to me that you are a very good writer! I’d say to take things one step at a time. Make a genuine effort in deciding what it is that you want out of your life and to pursue it. Do not test your fiance, just to see whether he can take it or not. Your life is based on your input and not his. From the looks of it, find situations that really makes you feel like you want to start living again!! Have faith that we’re all human and everyone of makes mistakes. Although your past life do seem tragic, there’s really nothing that you can do about it at this point. However, do know that even if the life is not worth living and even if seems very stale at one point, it’ll pass. Just keep thinking positive and be grateful for what you have. If you really seem to be angry at the world, try meditating… sit down in buddah position, breathe in…. hold on to positive aurora entering your body, and exhale thinking all the negative energies leaving your body… you know things like that… Life offers so much variety that you as a couple can emensly enjoy together…. I’m still single and I sometimes wish I had a partner to share some of life’s situations… well good luck! 🙂 And peace be with you~.October 20, 2013 at 11:56 pm #44062
Yup… I had this problem… even till a point where I literally said to the other person “I’m sorry …. _____ I have crazy mood swings”, and the other person would look at me very confused, like… wtheck… do I even know you that well personally?….. n he didn’t respond or take it seriously (thank God)……At that moment I realized that I just had a mental breakdown. In my opinion he looked very tired and depressed after I’ve said that and I started feeling even worse. The thing is, the mood swings happens to everyone, and it’s inevitable bc we are all alike. Try thinking this way, I believe everyone deals with it but they just try not to let it show it. Because I want to show them that I’m tough enough to not let it show. Btw one book I’ve read said that even though you may seem like you’re about to have an emotional outbreak or crises and think that the world is coming to an end, the other party may just look at you and the reaction they present is nothing or cynical because in reality nothing is really happening!!!.. and you just look bored. So try to get your thought away from negatives and keep transitioning your thoughts to something else when you’re dealing with those excessively low mood swings. It’s all up to you mentally. I know it’s not easy, and it may not work sometimes when oh boy those crazy mood swings… but even with your really bad mood swings it’s not as bad as you think. Those same people that may take up that so called crazy mood and walk away would be in the very same shoes passing his or her mood swings to other people at a different time and location thinking same thing you just been through. And the thing is when I see other people go through a crazy mood swing, I don’t criticize or want them to just disappear from this earth or anything so why should they? we’re all alike… like one and we live to forgive and to learn to grow 🙂