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LidewijParticipantHey,
calm down love! You just fell of the wagon, everyone does. When trying to form new habits, and definitely when trying to break old habits. You did not drink for two weeks, that is a great achievement. It is too much to expect that you would NEVER drink too much again. Be proud of yourself.
You are spending too much energy being down on yourself, telling yourself there is no point in trying, that you can’t trust yourself. You are just learning, you are falling down and getting back up. That is how you are growing. Stop expecting so much perfection. Just fall of that wagon, and get right back up on the next day.
Also another thing: alcohol can be a depressant. I know I can feel very down if I have drunk the night before. So that is definitely influencing your feelings as well.
Please let us know how you are feeling now and what we can do to help!
LidewijParticipantHi,
well you are only 23, you are very young. And many guys that you meet don’t really want a relationship. They think they do, and then they realise they don’t. It hasn’t got anything to do with you.
My advice to you is to enjoy your own life, nurture your friendships and everything you like to do. Try not to worry about men. There is nothing wrong with you that you have not been in love yet! It’s totally normal. Remember that when you look at other people’s relationships, you don’t see the whole picture.
I am 27 now and in a relationship, it is the first actual happy relationship I have been in. And now I wish I would not have spend so much time being in relationships with guys who were not worth it when I was around your age! So consider yourself lucky.
Again: there is NOTHING wrong with you or your situation. Love will come, and you deserve it, there is no fixing you have to do, you are so enough it’s ridiculous. It just hasn’t arrived yet for whatever reason.
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LidewijParticipantThanks to all three of you who have taken the time to answer and put effort into helping
Sorry I haven’t replied before
LidewijParticipantI should also add that I have started practising yoga and meditation back in February, but despite these two practises that are really helping I still struggle
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