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December 8, 2021 at 1:19 pm #389602
The trouble is that I am getting old. My looks have gone and my health is not good. I thought that I could get free and that life would be worth living (I’m not suicidal I hasten to add), but time has really been running out. Short of a miracle financially, I don’t see how I can get free in time to succeed at anything.
I think I have to recognise that I made the mistake of having looked to resolve things with my parents for so long, and I didn’t move forward, but I hadn’t had sufficient positive input from them to move forward, if that makes sense. There is another reason I can’t share here for why I didn’t perceive what was happening, basically there was deception to an extent I hadn’t realised.
I’d like to send a pm because I think I could honestly say what I was thinking to you. And I have been honest here, but its different. I just hope that somehow something that is shared helps others move forward with their struggles, sometimes it can be difficult to see the way forward.December 8, 2021 at 12:36 pm #389599
This is my response to your second post you kindly wrote.
What you have said has been helpful again, and thinking of memories that are negative, it seems they return to our consciousness so that we can learn something or as a warning, and so that we can perhaps heal and move forward.
It’s interesting that I have been wanting to let go of one particular relationship (I think there are others too), but have felt incredibly obligated, and then just lately I had to stop contact for the moment, for health reasons. After doing this, I found that I was not having nearly so many cravings and I had a sudden shift in being able to prepare food somewhat more healthily (I say somewhat as I’m not good at cooking at the moment).
It seems that some of my relationships are there out of this sense of obligation, rather than affection freely given.
Thank you for sharing what you’ve said, it’s helped.
I’m only just really thinking of this as I’m writing, so I haven’t thought through my side versus their side.
I’m a bit reluctant to look at this topic straight away here, at least in a lot of depth.
I’ve read a bit about different personality types and attachments and that seems very relevant.
Where to go for a safe haven? This is where I wish I could send a pm.December 8, 2021 at 12:10 pm #389598
Thank you for kindly responding to my OP.
I’m a bit reluctant to delve more into the spiritual side of things, because I think its really important to be grounded. I appreciate that some people seem to have this ability to hear ‘spirits’ etc, and I think it was Jung who talked about the collective unconscious, if I’ve said that right.
Sorry if I’ve confused things by asking these questions – on reflection, I think the idea of thoughts that have become loud seems most helpful for the time being, but I appreciate you replying.December 8, 2021 at 12:02 pm #389597
This is my reply to your first response to my OP which you kindly gave.
Thank you for helping me by giving feedback on my questions. I have been investigating the option of some free psychotherapy which might be available, but I won’t find out if I’m eligible for it for perhaps a couple of months (due to the time of year). I’m not in a position to pay just now, however, so far, in this journey of seeking further healing, I have found that a lot of answers have come unexpectedly and primarily through working on my own, reading or I should say gleaning sometimes, because my concentration hasn’t always been good, and asking others about their experiences. That said, I do recognise that psychotherapy is probably really necessary and I may have got the point I am at now a lot sooner, had I been able to see a psychotherapist before now.December 7, 2021 at 1:04 am #389545
I’m sorry I may have posted under the wrong section. It occurred to me that I ought to have put this under tough times.December 7, 2021 at 12:59 am #389544
Thank you in advance to anyone able to help.December 5, 2021 at 3:54 pm #389497
hi SSS, thanks for your reply. Perhaps its tiredness but I’m sorry, I don’t think I’m quite grasping what you’ve said. Is it that you’re asking if the voice was linked to an ingrained belief or faith which was ‘planted’ by guilt in some way? Or have I misunderstood?December 5, 2021 at 3:33 pm #389490
Supportively, Sensitivity, Simplicity…… (I cheated here and googled a list of positive words beginning with S!
I must admit that I was rushing too when I chose my name. I was thinking along the lines of clarity.December 5, 2021 at 2:56 pm #389477
Thank you SSS, I’m very grateful for your kind replies here. Hopefully I might be able to post an update in the future. Btw, I am curious to know what SSS might stand for, but understand if you’d rather not share. I hope it is inspiring or positive for you.December 5, 2021 at 2:50 pm #389476
Thanks again, anita. I hope that I’ll be able to post an update in future.December 5, 2021 at 2:32 pm #389465
Thank you SSS!December 5, 2021 at 2:31 pm #389461
Yes, that’s so helpful. I think establishing at the outset that I won’t be talking about certain issues and then being watchful.
What also comes to mind, is writing down a consequence for me if I were to discuss the issues I don’t want to. I think that will help too.
On reflection, I don’t think I want to spend lots of time with others of the original belief – at least not until I’ve processed more. I’m going to have to carry around with me a bit of paper with this on!December 5, 2021 at 2:00 pm #389450
Yes, thank you, I need to write it out I think, so that I have it clear in my mind. Perhaps a sentence I can easily recall and repeat. Inevitably people will ask and might invite me over to talk about it.
Thanks so much for helping me think this through!December 5, 2021 at 1:50 pm #389446
Thanks so much for your explanations – I’m finding they are really helping to provide insight and clarity to what has been happening.
I do think I need some therapy, and I’ll see if I can speak with someone within the next couple of weeks.
Thanks again.December 5, 2021 at 1:43 pm #389444
Just read both your ideas and what comes to mind, which you may have done anyway, would be to acknowledge to her the amount of work she had put in to the writing. It need not be wasted, perhaps if she were to file it and take it out and review it some months down the line it may give her some useful insight or idea(s) or help her to be more objective. Perhaps also, to give her ideas for what to do next, gently suggesting the usefulness of exercises, or purchasing a book of exercises that might help. Or suggested reading to expand her knowledge and awareness of other writers.