Hi Anita,

I apologize again for the late response and I appreciate you taking out the time to reply to my posts. Yes, I guess I have to call it off.

Hi Anita,

Sorry for the late reply. Right now if he shows up is the biggest question and now it has become too embarrassing for me to ask him if he will be coming down. Also, taking into account our recent conversations, I feel he is not the right person for me as he is not able to satisfy me emotionally and makes me feel guilty if I expect him to do basic things. For example, if we are video calling at night, he would multi-task and scroll through social media. In the past I have told him that if for 15 minutes he could just pay attention to me. He thinks it’s not a big deal and I am just over-reacting and being too emotional about it.

Hi Anita,

Maybe you are right and I have raised this point several times with him but he says that he while he is not very expressive he does care. As I said I am giving it a last try and hoping for things to work out between us.

Hi Valora,

The problem is that he is a very practical person and I am the complete opposite. We video call every night but often he would check his mails and do other things, which made me upset and I have expressed it to him. I did tell him that we have very less things in common to talk about. He does try to communicate but I don’t know what to do now. A part of me does not want to give up on him.

Hi Valora and Peggy,

Thank you for your reply. He texted me back by saying that we have already discussed all this before and I don’t want to have a discussion about it again. To which I asked him, if he doesn’t care? He said he is at work and to save the drama for later. I told him, let’s end this then since he doesn’t care and I can’t deal with his uncertain decisions anymore. He said ok and I replied that I won’t bother him again. It hurts because I trusted someone after a very long time and I thought he genuinely liked me back but I guess I was too naive to understand. He may possibly be talking to someone from his city right now, for all I know. His birthday is coming up soon and I was looking at flight tickets to go meet him. But now, I don’t know if it is a good idea.

Hi Peggy,

When I first asked him to meet me, he readily agreed not like I had to persuade him. When the third time he cancelled on me I asked him why do you even want to continue talking to me if you have no intention of meeting?

I feel for a relationship to grow, it is necessary that we meet each other once, considering he lives in a different city altogether.

Hi Peggy,

Thank you for your reply. I am 27 years old and I do want to settle down now. Hence, I decided to speak to him. My family is not the type to pressurise me. I do like this guy but as you said his actions are saying something else. I dropped him a text saying that if you are genuinely not interested in coming and meeting me ever, then I would appreciate you being honest about it.

Hi Anita,

Yes, somewhere deep down I really thought he would take a stand for us and give our relationship a try. But the minute he said let’s just move on, I felt really bad. Maybe he isn’t the guy for me and I was fighting real hard to make it work between us.