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  • #304067
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    Hi Anita,

    I apologize again for the late response and I appreciate you taking out the time to reply to my posts. Yes, I guess I have to call it off.

    #303787
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    Hi Anita and Valora,

    I know you both are right and I guess I should just end this relationship because I don’t think he takes me or my emotions seriously. Considering the fact that he cancelled coming to meet me thrice. I feel I am overly invested in this relationship and he isn’t. When I raise these points, he says that I am acting immature and I need to grow up. Last night I ended up crying when he got mad at me and said I am overly emotional and need to stop crying over everything.

    #303773
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    Hi Anita,

    Sorry for the late reply. Right now if he shows up is the biggest question and now it has become too embarrassing for me to ask him if he will be coming down. Also, taking into account our recent conversations, I feel he is not the right person for me as he is not able to satisfy me emotionally and makes me feel guilty if I expect him to do basic things. For example, if we are video calling at night, he would multi-task and scroll through social media. In the past I have told him that if for 15 minutes he could just pay attention to me. He thinks it’s not a big deal and I am just over-reacting and being too emotional about it.

    #303597
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    I am not pressuring myself to marry him. But I do want to meet him once and see how we are with each other face to face. It’s just been a month and I do feel that he knows I like him more than he does. I still don’t feel that connection with him. At this point of time, I don’t want to waste my time or his time as he is also planning to settle down, at least from what he says. I find him a little intimating and feel like I am giving it more than he does. As I stay up until late to talk to him as he gets free quite late from work.

    #303585
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    Hi Anita,

    Maybe you are right and I have raised this point several times with him but he says that he while he is not very expressive he does care. As I said I am giving it a last try and hoping for things to work out between us.

    #303521
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    I did speak to him yesterday and told him these are the problems so he said he will come meet me this weekend or the next. I told him this is the last time and after that if he is a no show, then I am going to give up on this.

    #303401
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    Hi Valora,

    The problem is that he is a very practical person and I am the complete opposite. We video call every night but often he would check his mails and do other things, which made me upset and I have expressed it to him. I did tell him that we have very less things in common to talk about. He does try to communicate but I don’t know what to do now. A part of me does not want to give up on him.

    #303385
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    Hi Peggy,

    The thing about marriage is that he knows we both are talking to each other for the purpose of getting married. Initially, his mother was not comfortable with the idea of somebody being from a different city but he assured me saying if we get along then distance doesn’t matter. We did have differences with me arguing with him almost every other night as he would not give me enough time. I don’t know if this put him off and he decided to not come and meet me.

    #303381
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    Hi Valora and Peggy,

    Thank you for your reply. He texted me back by saying that we have already discussed all this before and I don’t want to have a discussion about it again. To which I asked him, if he doesn’t care? He said he is at work and to save the drama for later. I told him, let’s end this then since he doesn’t care and I can’t deal with his uncertain decisions anymore. He said ok and I replied that I won’t bother him again. It hurts because I trusted someone after a very long time and I thought he genuinely liked me back but I guess I was too naive to understand. He may possibly be talking to someone from his city right now, for all I know. His birthday is coming up soon and I was looking at flight tickets to go meet him. But now, I don’t know if it is a good idea.

    #303321
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    Hi Inky,

    I have tried doing that and I feel it hardly matters to him. What pisses me off more is the fact is that I believed someone who bailed on me twice before.

    #303317
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    Hi Peggy,

    When I first asked him to meet me, he readily agreed not like I had to persuade him. When the third time he cancelled on me I asked him why do you even want to continue talking to me if you have no intention of meeting?

    I feel for a relationship to grow, it is necessary that we meet each other once, considering he lives in a different city altogether.

    #303313
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    Hi Raju,

     

    I agree it is slightly unlikely to develop strong feelings in such a short span of time. But talking everyday day and night, I did invest myself emotionally to this so called relationship. Lately he seems distant and on Friday night he told me how about you start speaking to other guys and when I show up you give me another chance. I don’t know what he means by saying this. He knows I like him a lot and has probably taken me for granted. I dropped him a text saying that I can’t do this anymore because I can’t convince myself to trust him. To which he said that something is wrong with me and he is at work. I know I should just let it go as he cancelled his plans to see me everytime we decided to meet.

    #303307
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    Hi Peggy,

    Thank you for your reply. I am 27 years old and I do want to settle down now. Hence, I decided to speak to him. My family is not the type to pressurise me. I do like this guy but as you said his actions are saying something else. I dropped him a text saying that if you are genuinely not interested in coming and meeting me ever, then I would appreciate you being honest about it.

    #275281
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    Hi Valora,

    I did raise this point when we were together, to which he simply said we are just getting to know each other. But then I started to notice that no matter how much I tried to talk to him about other things, he wasn’t interested. Moreover, he was insecure about my past and would often question me about it. In all honesty this is all we talked about.

    #275279
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, somewhere deep down I really thought he would take a stand for us and give our relationship a try. But the minute he said let’s just move on, I felt really bad. Maybe he isn’t the guy for me and I was fighting real hard to make it work between us.

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