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January 16, 2018 at 10:07 am #187045
Hello again Eliana,
I totally agree with doctors not spending enough time with patients. That is kind of what I meant in that I found an integrated health provider that is a Nurse Practitioner rather than an MD because they can still do many of the same things as an MD but I find that nurses or those who were nurses tend to have better people skills. She usually spends 30-45 minutes with me so far.
I hope that maybe some of the others’ suggestions here might bring you some healing.
Just know that you are not alone in your frustration with the medical field.January 15, 2018 at 12:46 pm #186855
I think you mean Lena? This is Lena’s thread 🙂 Hope today hasn’t been too difficult for you Lena.January 15, 2018 at 4:36 am #186653
I hope your birthday had a bit of brightness 🙂
I wasn’t really meaning seeking out some sort of alternative treatment, so much as maybe trying to find yourself a physician that is willing to treat you as a whole person and consider things like diet, supplements (e.g. my provider told me to start taking vitamin d which seems to help with my mood), etc… in addition to/alongside prescriptions if you aren’t having any success with your current treatment. Unfortunately vitamins, pro-biotics, and other supplements aren’t generally covered by insurance if they decide you need them, I know for me it helped just to know one is treated as a person instead of a machine to be fixed even though my provider still had me take a prescription medication as well.
And, animals are great. I pray you can find a way to get to the sanctuary.January 14, 2018 at 10:37 am #186599
If the world is awful, oh how much more brightly our light could shine.January 14, 2018 at 10:09 am #186595
That makes sense, though I do want a family and often feel that someone that would want a family with me would be the type to reject me if I cant give them biological children. I know logically that there are people who wouldn’t feel that way, and that obviously it would have to be one of those people who would be a good match. It’s just difficult to fully internalize it emotionally. Thinking about it, this probably stems from fear of rejection; all the more reason to find a supportive group. I am grateful for your suggestions because they have provided a bit of direction and clarity, and I feel I can have the courage to give it a try even though I still feel a bit apprehensive. Thank you.January 14, 2018 at 9:21 am #186585
Thank you so much for your ideas anita. The part about “geared towards those who have lost people in their lives” is basically that I just don’t know what type of group to search for in my particular situation, for instance, there is grieving in the loss of not being able to carry a child, and yet I feel like it would be really awkward to be there with others who have lost a loved one that they knew. So I just kind of feel lost, because I would like to have a supportive place to share and process my feelings and don’t know exactly what “category” to search for. Thank you for suggesting that I just start out by sharing my concerns about being there, and the reminder that I would be able to leave.January 14, 2018 at 8:28 am #186575
First HAPPY BIRTHDAY, know that you are loved!
Recently I just got tired of doctors experimenting with medications, not-listening or wanting to work with me and decided to seek out an integrative health practitioner who is more willing to do so and to be open to other options like diet, mediation, or natural treatments in addition to traditional medications. They also communicate and coordinate amongst other providers in their organization such as the psychiatric provider and physician working together. Perhaps you could look into this as well? I feel a lot better now eating healthier, eliminating gluten that was causing my body to attack my thyroid, and just the fact that she actually listens and takes a bit more time rather than just telling me what to do has been a big help emotionally.
Also, like anita mentioned, I find that if you open up to people, especially those who work in compassionate jobs like the animal shelter, they might surprise you with their willingness to help, especially for someone else that has such a kind heart and desire to help animals and people. Isn’t it worth a try?
May your day be full of blessings.
Edit: I don’t think God is punishing you. It’s just life, there is both positive and negative and sometimes it feels like there is waaay more negative than positive, but we can find the positive if we look hard, even though it is very difficult in the pain. And those who go through difficult things are often some of the most loving and kind people in this world.January 14, 2018 at 4:51 am #186529
A book I read recently had a story with a quote that really has been helpful to me:
You don’t have to resist pain.
You don’t have to snuggle up with your pain but you also don’t have to push against it. It is ok to not be ok, and to feel the pain.
I won’t say that everything is easy, I too have felt the feeling that if things are good and happy, that the pain that inevitably is part of life will be much worse. Only recently have I been motivated to actually work to make the positive changes my therapist has wanted me to do for years, and I happened to stumble upon Tiny Buddha at this time and it has been such a blessing. The thing I realized, though of course I’m not always perfect at applying it, is that when one really takes that quote into their heart, it becomes much easier to not be afraid and have faith that if you keep your heart open and move towards what it really wants, rather than what your negative-mind/ego wants, things will be ok somehow.
I have often beat myself up with negative, hurtful words about many of the same things that you speak of and have printed out several of the inspirational images from here on Tiny Buddha and put them on the wall to remind me to be kinder to myself. One that really seems appropriate here is this one:January 13, 2018 at 12:26 pm #186487
Thank you for your response. I’m just wondering if I should go to one of these groups? I would like to find a support group but I’m not sure what type of group would make sense? As I mentioned, it seems like these types of groups are for people who are seeking treatment and grief support groups seem to be geared towards those who have lost people in their lives?