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  • in reply to: Sitting with the pain; clarity & confusion #116282
    Brandi
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    Good for you that you saw the signs and read them. I applaud your strenghth in doing things you know are healthy for YOU, and not letting him control you enough to stop being yourself. My concern would be the fact you wrap yourself up in a man’s life and make him your world. I understand, as I’ve done this too. Next time you meet a man you like, don’t lose yourself and the things that keep YOU happy and okay. (Said to myself also.)

    in reply to: Should I make a move? Insight needed. #116268
    Brandi
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    Do what Anita suggested. I also will suggest that you realize that sex doesn’t equal love, or eeven come close. Hanging out and having funwith the opposite sex doesn’t have to include sex right away. If a guy is genuingly interested in you, he will keep coming back. If he gets the prize without any effort other than being nice or “hanging out” with you, then he doesn’t have to get to know you to get what he wants…you gave it for free.
    Talk to your therapist about that part, or you’ll be confused and hurt continually in your life. I have seen this unhealthy behavior over & over again. There’s an underlying reason why you involve yourself in these behaviors, if you don’t already know what it it, maybe your therapist can help you wth this issue. Good luck sweety.

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