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  • December 17, 2015 at 3:43 pm #89846
    Marcel
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    hi vizual, thanks.

    I think the people in my job, my house, my gym and my friends doesn’t care about how I look, so why bother? Also I wont meet a girlfriend here at home or there at my gym so i just stop caring, i dont have any sort of motivation to groom myself that much.

    Have a nice day, cheers.

    December 17, 2015 at 2:47 pm #89843
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    hi anita, thanks for answering.

    Sometimes i doubt myself of all this and I get nervous. I doubt if I really have to take what they say as an offense to me, i dont know if im just weak or dont understand what they’re trying to say to me. My mom says “there something inside yourself that is wrong, so thats why you get mad or sick when i talk to you, its your fault”, my uncles directly doesnt care. The same thing happens with my friends and my whole life: i don’t know if im just being lame, immature or i’m avoiding responsibilty with my life or am i right to feel bad about how some people treats me and direct my life. Its like i’ve always lifted the guilt of everything that i just cant handle it anymore.

    Have a nice day, anyway. Cheers.

    November 10, 2015 at 8:32 pm #87196
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    Hi Saiisha, i’ve tried to pictured my dream life and it doesn’t fit with replacing my mom and uncle. If you ask me right now i don’t want to be a CEO, too much money yeah but too much stress and too much sacrifice, not for me. The thing is i’m not very sure whats the path to achieve my dream life, and this fulfills me with great anxiety…

    November 10, 2015 at 7:39 pm #87193
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    hi anita, well I’ve imagined how does it feel, and it didn’t feel right. It scared me to death. Right now, my self confidence is so low that i don’t even know i’m able to work properly in a real job, plus i wont stand their judgemental looks and their acusatory questions and stuff…its a hard situation…

    November 5, 2015 at 7:06 pm #86840
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    hi saiisha (nice name), thanks for answering.

    well, i’ve thought of working somewhere else but i’m really afraid of what my family could think, cause maybe they take it as an ungratefulness, and i know my mom and my uncle, they’re kind of rancorous, besides, i don’t know which job i can fit in, i’ve never worked formally in my life (my experience in my family business doesn’t count yet, i think)

    on the other side, the business have more or less 200 employees, and is runned by my mom, who is 63 and my uncle who is 58, he doesn’t have kids, my mom got me and my sister (who leave the house for a similar situation of mine, but thats a whole other story), they don’t trust other family members either. i feel stuck, like my destiny is to run the business…

    but i totally agree with you, its necessary to find joy in what i do. cheers!

    November 5, 2015 at 6:57 pm #86839
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    hi anita, thanks for your time.

    i’ve had like 3 big therapies in my life. first one, when i got rejected by a crush, it depressed me quite a bit, but i try to move forward by my own, with self made tantras and giving me value. the second one was during college, i went to a coach, i did workshops with her, we worked on self-esteem, insecurities, my relationship with my mom (boss), etc., despite i didn’t improve a lot on those issues, i learnt a lot about gratefulness and humility, i did learn about being aware in the present time too. And now, i’m into another therapy, i discovered some things about my family, where i get my insecurities from, working on not sabotage me with negative thoughts and trying to find a professional option for my life because of my current situation. thats it, hope it helps!

    November 5, 2015 at 6:50 pm #86836
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    hi inky, thank you so much for answering my post.

    Yeah, working with family it is how you explain it. And i would add that every scold or loud voice you heard from them hurts a lot cause its coming from your mom.

    I don’t earn that much, she pay me every day worked so i cant afford hiring an assistant, besides, i don’t do that much to need one. My job is really informal, i’m just ‘helping’ my mom with her stuff. She said to me something like “i brought you with me to meetings and so for you to learn about the business, how i do stuff, every task i give to you is for your learning”

    I’ve thought of a side business but i haven’t gone that far with it, i’m still to insecure to pursue a entrepeneurship. Uncertainty scares me a lot. But i’ve found the way to get stress off, as you said.

    again, thanks for your time.

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