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  • April 29, 2018 at 1:29 pm #204777
    Meander
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    Thanks Anita, it does feel good.

    January 24, 2018 at 7:39 pm #188781
    Meander
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    Saya,

    If you’re looking for someone to talk to I’m happy to listen. It’s tough feeling like you are disconnected from friends and don’t have a support network.

    sometimes just being able to talk things out with someone can really help clarify thinking/feelings.

    You’re taking some time to figure yourself out-that’s great you’ve identified the need for that!

    what are the things you want for yourself? What are your interests/passions? Maybe you need to reconnect with yourself as an individual?

    Kind Regards,

    Meander

     

    January 23, 2018 at 12:54 pm #188341
    Meander
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    Thanks for taking time to read that!

    You are probably right and I shouldn’t get involved in their relationship. I find it hard not feeling a sense of responsibility for trying to fix things in others lives. Like if they express they are unhappy in something, I’m not really sure how to express my support/care without taking things on board myself.

    January 14, 2018 at 10:16 pm #186639
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    Do you maybe fear that things will end and you’ll be hurt so the times you snap at him you’re feeling vunerable and really want to feel closer to him, but push him away instead out of fear?

    i have a friend who gets very emotional and snaps at her partner. She said sometimes it’s her testing his feelings for her.

    Are you frustrated by your relationship being a secret and would like it to be out in the open?

    January 13, 2018 at 11:33 pm #186523
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    Thanks. The part about validating my anger has really got me reflecting -I struggle to validate my feelings in general. I am scared to have feelings that might not fit in with other people around me-even in my own head I’ll question if it is ok to feel that way. That is definitely something for me to work on. Thanks for the insight!

    January 12, 2018 at 12:40 pm #186379
    Meander
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    Thanks very much for your replies Anita and Inky.

     

    My friend and I both benefit from being different-helps give different perspectives and experiences which we appreciate. We encourage and challenge each other in different ways.

    Id never considered that anger from my childhood could be triggering feelings. That makes a lot of sense. I did go through a time with my mum where I had a lot of anger with her-would get irrationally mad at little things and then feel bad for it. Ive gotten to a much better place with my mum, but there are still many feelings there-like a sense of hurt-that I don’t really like to consider because I don’t know where to channel it healthily. I don’t want to be in a frame of mind where I blame Mum-that’s not something she can deal with.

    thanks for the suggestion about talking to someone to help deal with that-I think that’s a good idea

    Meander

    January 12, 2018 at 4:01 am #186285
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    1. Does your relationship with Gianna and Jennie enrich your life in some way?
    3. Or do you feel like you should be holding onto the relationship because of your history together, and feel it would dishonour that to move on/away from your relationships with them?
    January 11, 2018 at 2:09 pm #186191
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    Wow I just have to say how wonderfully generous you are allowing your daughter to stay-especially with all the heartache that brings for you. You should feel really proud of all you are doing for your family!

    I think your feelings of frustration are totally understandable. It’s not selfish to think of your own needs-try not to let anyone take advantage of your generosity.

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