Dude. Be real.
you don’t want to be with her. Legit you don’t. And that’s okay.
be honest about it. Quit tip-toeing around with these facile excuses.

she moves – so what? Cross that bridge if/ when you get there. You thinking too hard because you don’t want to invest or put any commitment in anything.

you are seriously the worst type of guy with this veneer of being “the nice guy”

Be an adult and end it for your own sake.

geez

So I’m a science guy (psych guy to be exact) and we have these hypotheses about things and we create conclusions about things based on the presentation in an environment.

I will now prove you are a clingy putz that should be nowhere near a relationship until you get therapy (or a slap to the face whichever)

So it’s me that are clingy?

That’s correct. You are a funny kind of clingy dude that assumes that if they put in the bare minimum that a relationship will be okay. Dismissing the fact that your partner is busy. And that you blew her off by going to a family function to spend time with her – what type of friend are you honestly?

Putz

My assumptions was wrong about relationships

that’s also correct. Your assumptions are wrong and well … you make a donkey of yourself doing that. Relationships are more than just bare minimum of I send a text that’s the best I can do. It’s barely the beginning. Why not surprise her? Why not take time out to learn her interests. Why is everything about you ? What about her feelings you putz

I mean like isnt relationship about maintaining communication and understanding each other? Right now it feels like she regards me more as a friend than a lover….

there are many methods of communication and interacting with people. Okay you send a text big deal. What else did you do besides kvetch about how she isn’t interested in you because she didn’t do exactly what you wanted to do to her.

secondly so what if she regards you as a friend? Are you under some sort of assumption that at the heart of a relationship isn’t friendship? Seriously is this your first relationship? I mean how old are you mate ?

best relationships do start out as friendships and maybe it’s a good opportunity to get to know her as one so you can build trust in yourself and your partner. Instead of kvetching like a child.

putz

Maybe u are right, i am not attractive enough…. It is always been this way…

never called you ugly but maybe you are an ugly sack of crap. Guess what? They get very attractive women too. Ugly never stopped anyone from being in a relationship. Get out of your pity party and grow up quick

putz

Today i have a date with her and i feel very one sided, like she doesnt ask me for hugs or holding hands… i was the one asking, usually she’s the one asking

Who in the bloody alps asks their girlfriend for a hug??? This isn’t Japan in the 90s or is it and I got lost in a time warp. If you want to hug pretty sure you can if it’s something that you both agreed to. Don’t be some sort of creep with it. You can hug your girlfriend.

get out of your own head you putz

The source? The person who attempted to teach the looney tunes Li Hongzhi in ’89.

Falun Gong didn’t fall from the sky because he was anointed (well maybe anointed a crazy hat I suppose). He was taught in one public lesson one relatively straightforward meditation and Li Hongzhi lost his mind. Falun Dafa came soon after with copious western support thereafter.

I think generally anyone who has been around Chinese cultivations across quanzhen knows this.

Sorry if you don’t and you’re following a crazy person.