Hi Anita,

They don’t want me to get hurt by my ex again. They feel i can do better and can truly find someone that will make me happy. They believe that if someone loves you, they would not want to break up with you in any way to hurt you. That i do agree.

I’m financially better than him as well as my career, so they think I can really do without him. I dont care about these things as long as i’m happy. I was happy when we’re together. He isn’t the type to ask for money and we don’t compare or compete who is making more money.

I guess my close cousin and my 2 best friends opinions matters to me.

My mum is supportive on whatever I decide and of course I know she wants me to be happy at the end of the day.

Nothing can tell if this will work, only time can prove it all.

I think it can be possible. I’m in my mid 30s he is 40. We’re both not getting young and it’s time to really settle down.

I was touched I must admit but I’m still not convinced, only time can tell if this promise will be actioned.

Thanks, Anita. Appreciate your input.

Hi guys,

I posted here about a few weeks ago.

My ex reached out again this week and asked if we could go for a walk for a catch up. I agreed and we met up last night.

It was a nice catch up as both of us were curious as to what we’ve been up to these days.

Obviously the main question came up. He wanted to know if we can try dating again. He said he will give me time to think about it and he will fully respect my decision if I choose to not wanting to try again.

I’ve been rehearsing for this scene for so long. I keep telling myself that the answer will be ‘no, I do not want to get back’ but obviously I didn’t say it in the end. I still love this guy.

He now realized that he need to mature up and made a mistake.

He was definitely committed in our relationship but I guess out of all his past relationships our one is the more serious one so it got to him a bit full on. He never moved in with anyone in his previous relationships.

I told him my concern is what if later on if he feels it’s too much again and we might break up bc he can’t handle it. I told him I’m not convinced yet.

I need to see some actions to be convinced but I don’t know how he can prove it?

Should I give it another go and see if this will work again. I understand this will be decision at the end of the day. Just a bit lost now.

Thanks.

Hi Anita,

Thanks so much for reading into my post.

Yes, I initiated the talk to see what is going on with him. I made it clear during the talk that my intention is not to break up but to see why the distance, where can we try resolve the issue and if he needed some space to think.

We had a one week space to ourselves which it was him that messaged me to have the second talk and which it was him that decided it’s best for us to break up.

I agree with you, if he knows that I don’t want to hear (which he is correct) then why say it. I think he is testing the water to see if I would initiate another talk to see if there is a chance to get back together?

I do feel sorry for him. He lives about an hour away from his family and 5min away from me. Because of Covid, we’re not allow to go around to other households for visits unless for compassionate reasons or to your intimate partner’s house.

I feel like he got no one to talk to during these difficult times and I feel terrible about it. There were so many times i want to reach out to him to see if he needs help but i thought better not to.