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May 7, 2026 at 11:59 am in reply to: If karma supposedly exists why do so many unkind people never face it? #457727
MissLDuchessParticipantNever had a long-term boyfriend.
May 7, 2026 at 9:11 am in reply to: Trying to overcome my fear of confrontation but still walking on eggshells #457720MissLDuchessParticipantPITA is a “pain in the ass”.
MissLDuchessParticipantHello Anita. Apologies for the late response I just had a lot going on. All is well. I’m trying to not compare myself to others and take things one day at a time.
MissLDuchessParticipantI also moved out of my parents’ house and closer to my office. I’m hoping this makes socializing easier since in the suburbs it’s mainly people with young kids and older people.
MissLDuchessParticipantHello Anita. This year has had lots of changes so far but luckily I’m ok!!
MissLDuchessParticipantIn the past like in college I’d try to polite and friendly but never genuinely clicked with anyone or found any peers who liked me enough to hang out with me. I have been trying to tell people I appreciate their kindness and they still don’t show interest in a friendship. At work my colleagues are 20 years older than me and are very different in terms of personalities and interests so we’re cordial but will likely never be close. I prefer a handful of close friends over 100 casual acquaintances any day. As a teen and in college I was afraid of putting myself out there due to gossip but I realize however blatantly rejects me is not meant to be my friend.
MissLDuchessParticipantThanks Alessa. In an ideal world I’d organically meet someone and we’d click but most couples these days meet via the apps so it’s worth a try although so far I feel a bit discouraged.
MissLDuchessParticipantAll I ask for in a partner is a good person who is kind, respectful, loving, hard-working, and shares my values.
MissLDuchessParticipantHello Anita. Well the issue is that a lot of times I’ve confused friendship with people being polite. I try to be polite and say please and thank you but this seldom helps turn acquaintances into friends. I’m not like my mom who is naturally charming and draws people in.
October 2, 2025 at 7:37 am in reply to: Trying my best to get out my comfort zone but still am very lonely #450505MissLDuchessParticipantI’ve always enjoyed singing and used to be in a choir in elementary and middle. I event sent in an audition for The Voice earlier this year and was rejected lol. Luckily I’m meeting up with and old friend from my international school days next week. I also recently got in touch with my elementary school psychologist who remembers me fondly and was always very kind. It’s heartwarming reconnecting with people who remember me fondly before experiences that really set back my confidence like college.
MissLDuchessParticipantI did yes and I wanted to clarify with a few life updates. I’m glad I was able to find work and am hoping to find an apartment closer to the office soon. I hope 5 months from today I’ll be happier.
MissLDuchessParticipantHello Anita,
Well luckily I’m not longer living in the city I disliked and have my Master’s. I’m trying really hard to put myself out there but haven’t had much luck yet. Everyone says friendships take time so I’m trying to not make the same mistakes I did in college.
MissLDuchessParticipantThese were teenagers who did this. Unfortunately college was way worse socially and I never made friends in 4 years. I’m hoping things will get better soon but am really down and frustrated. I turn 27 next month and am worried I’ll be alone forever.
MissLDuchessParticipantIt still hurts I was treated like a leper in college and all my attempts at putting myself out there failed.
September 3, 2025 at 11:21 am in reply to: How to not get discouraged when trying to make friends in adulthood #449247MissLDuchessParticipantDefinitely because I was 21 and about to graduate college. I was really hoping to put myself out there in the real world and try to find myself. 5 years later I’ve done a lot and have met lots of great people, learned many lessons, and matured a lot but still feel lonely.
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