Hi Bellamoon <3

I want to say, that when I started reading this I felt very connected, as I went through something very similar. I think there are a lot of questions that could be asked in order to better understand and discuss this but when it comes to other people’s triggers and loving someone, here is what I know and have experienced.

All of us have past baggage and traumas and pain, which translate to triggers. When what we do triggers someone else (usually unintentionally) it’s because it’s scratching their ego in some way. Something they haven’t healed yet from their past is hurting, and it’s coming through with irritation, anger, and frustration. In these situations, all we can do is listen to them, hear them, and let them know that we hear them and understand where they are coming from – acknowledging, honoring and validating their feelings is important. Even if we didn’t mean to hurt them, they feel hurt and that’s valid. Also, remember that when people react out of anger or frustration and they say hurtful things, this is a way coping by spreading the pain. When we feel pain, we should sit with it and feel it and then show it love and compassion and communicate it in a way that doesn’t, but this isn’t easy for most people. After showing compassion and love for how they feel, we can apologize that we made them feel that way, and then from a place of love and empathy, explain that we didn’t mean to make them feel that way. Someone who truly cares about you, won’t want to hurt you and say spiteful things, even if they are hurt. They’ll communicate it in a calm and understanding way. A lot of relationship anxiety boils down to the inability to trust. And even if we’ve never given someone a reason to distrust us, we also can’t MAKE them trust us, no matter what. It’s an internal processing decision that they have to make.

It’s also extremely important for you to really look at how each of you need to be loved, and how each of you show love. Love languages are real and they are what make our love tank feel full or empty. If quality time is his main love language, then something might have to change, because it will continue to trigger him. It’s important to remember what YOU need and not compromise what you need for another – set boundaries. Also, can you really give them what they need? Is it possible? Some people, if they’re not healed or trying to heal, will never feel like they’re getting what they need, because they’re not giving it to themselves. In this case, we’re helpless – we can be there for them, love them, show compassion, but at what expense? The expense should never be your happiness and light.

Every relationship is a lesson and with that comes growth. Even though it hurts, if we’ve tried everything and it isn’t aligning with who we truly are, then sometimes we have to let them go. Some people are meant to be in our lives, but just for a season. This doesn’t mean you should end things, but have a conversation. A real, raw, vulnerable conversation about your relationship and where it’s going and how you feel and what you need from each other. When it starts to cause more pain than love, we have to look deeper.

The questions to keep in mind are, Is there more light than dark? More love than hurt? Is this person and relationship in alignment with who I truly am? Am I truly happy?

I hope these questions and introspection help you find the answers you’re looking for & I hope the universe brings you much love and peace <3

Hi Berfiniel!

1-Does patience really leads to salvation?

Patience is something that is calming and healing for yourself. I think this works both ways. Once you’ve started healing and growing and beginning your own spiritual journey, patience will find you. We often lack patience because we feel we’re in a rush and it creates anxiety about the future no matter how far or near that future is – But the truth is, we can’t control the future. When we live in the future it causes anxiety and leads to impatience. Once you’ve started your healing and surrender a need for control, you realize that what is happening now, was meant to happen now. You can’t change, rush, or slow down time, so just being present and practicing patience will bring a sense of calmness to your own soul. Everything we ask for, or manifest, or work towards, requires patience with the universe. In terms of it leading to salvation, I think this depends on your own personal beliefs, but I think patience would definitely play a part.

2-Does taking medicine affect our chakras in a bad way?

This depends on what kind of medication and how often you’re taking it – there are plenty of herbal remedies which can actually help your chakras. Everything affects our bodies which affects our souls and chakras. For example, caffeine and dairy calcify your pineal gland which affects your third eye and intuition. We should be mindful of all things we put in our bodies, from medicine and even to food.

3-How can i find a meaning in life?

Take a step back and surrender to your spirituality. Let your soul lead you towards the things you love and are passionate about. When we start truly finding and being our authentic selves, our souls start to gravitate to things and people that feed that. Be open to new adventures and possibilities – Submerge yourself in learning about your spirituality and where you come from and what you feel inside. Spirituality and finding our life purpose requires A LOT of INTROSPECTION. You have to look inside yourself and ask why. Why am I working this job, Why am I friends with this person, Why am I doing what I’m doing, and be open to the real, raw and authentic answer your soul gives and if it doesn’t feel like it aligns with you, then something has to change. Once we’re living in alignment with our true selves, and we shed the fear of wanting to fit in, and replace it with true self-love and acceptance, it brings purpose and meaning into the light.

4-How can i improve myself in *this* way?

This was a question I asked when I first started my spiritual awakening. I started reading and learning and reading about other people’s journies. It lead me to become a spiritual coach so I could help others in their journey. There are many coaches, healers, lightworkers and personal growth experts to learn from and/or be mentored by. It takes a willingness to heal and feel pain to release it and make room for love and acceptance. If you want to improve and grow, you will. Just by posting on here, you’re putting that into the universe, and if you listen closely enough, your spirit guides and intuition will help you find your way <3