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  • #404321
    James
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    I just wanted to drop a note here. I got out of this relationship and it was and still is the best decision I have ever made. Things are so much clearer when you are outside of a situation. It wasn’t long after this post that I made the final decision that I couldn’t go back and I found so many encouraging stories here. I love the fact that no one send “leave him” because that really never works! Lol we dont leave, not until we are ready to. Thank you to you both! ❤️

    #194877
    James
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    Hi Jillian,

    my boyfriend is an alcoholic and has been clean for more than a year now. During the time of his heavy drinking, he was extremely abusive and I’d sometimes cry at night asking myself why I was still around. I ended up moving out and he hasn’t drank since. He’s a strong man and things are much better… he didn’t do it for me, he did it for himself because he knew he was destroying relationships. We still have issues, there’s no doubt but there is hope for people to get sober and stay clean. Keep in mind, it won’t solve all of your problems but it helps a whole lot. Best of luck to you, I feel your pain.

    #194875
    James
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    Good Evening,

    I enjoyed reading your story. Men operate totally different from women but I believe you keep getting what you have already received.  I don’t believe your friend will commit anytime soon. I love your positive outlook! Have a great night!

     

    #186251
    James
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    Thank you both Inky, and Anita. I had a very long talk with him this evening and I didn’t something that I’m not very good at doing, listening. I know I have to go with my gut and see things through. I’m going to be hopeful and work on my own resentments.

    #186167
    James
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    Thanks, Anita. This really helped.

    #186147
    James
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    Hi Anita,

    im sorry, what I wrote was confusing and I’m also using my cell phone. I feel like you train people how to treat you and every time I stay when he speaks to me in a disrespectful way I feel like I am saying “it’s ok to treat me this way” we’ve cried together and he admits he has problems. In all fairness I do, too. I don’t handle it well and react very poorly at times.. that always leaves me feeling very guilty. I love him very much and he does add value to my life. All my friends and family tell me to leave him, that I can do much better and that people never change. I don’t believe that.. people do change if they really want to, but how many chances should one give?

    #186069
    James
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    Congratulations on staying sober! I wish I had some words of wisdom. Thanks for sharing your story. You’ll be in my prayers. 

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