Hi Jade!

I too am going through a break up with someone I think is a sociopath. He was in the Army and has PTSD. I feel like you described exactly what I’ve gone through. It was a complete roller coaster of emotions from beginning until now. I have to warn you, he will probably come back and please do whatever you can to stay away from him. I broke it completely off last Sunday. He had broken up with me months ago out of the blue, just bailed. I have been in relationships and dumped before but this hurt worse than any break up I’ve ever had. It felt like I had nothing, I felt completely empty. I was ghosted. How could someone be so cruel, especially when you’ve given them your best? Just like your situation, I don’t remember him really saying anything nice to me. Who misses that?! So fast forward a month later…he starts messaging me that he misses me… I fall back in the trap..a little. I knew who he was at this point but I still saw that hurting child, like Anita said (She’s so good!). I had to finally let him go because I realized I was basing my worth on his acceptance of me. I am a whole person how could I let myself feel so low because a person who has absolutely no respect or real love for me abandons me? They get in your head and take you over. I feel your pain. You are worth so much more than that. Him leaving you has nothing to do with your worth and value. This is just another mind game, he will put you down awhile because he’s a selfish jerk and when he’s had his little freedom come back and love bomb you and repeat the dumb game over and over. Sociopaths think they are so smart, be smarter. When he comes crying back..as I guarantee you he will, don’t buy it. Stay strong! You got this!<3

Was this you who sent this or did you receive this?

I think the person has reached their limit. They feel frustrated and taken advantage of. A waste of a message in my opinion and if you sent this I don’t mean that those feelings aren’t valid. I’m just saying it seems to be falling on deaf ears. I would be just as angry as the sender, it’s completely disrespectful. The sender needs to put some boundaries up, gain respect by actions not words. Won’t fill up the car after driving it? New boundary…they don’t ever borrow your car again. I too am learning about setting boundaries. UGGGH – it’s very hard when you think people will offer the same respect you give to them.