dear all

yea I know I shouldn’t hit on my perspectives and thoughts on him. But the fact is that he has been caught hold on a laziness issue. ( which he has accepted it with me before too). I am really sorry for not mentioning that its not something that all of a sudden he has changed. this is something that has been going on for years. Basically, he is a lazy person. He doesn’t sit for hours for his exams. He usually takes a few hours and maybe by luck, he passes few subjects with a boundary limit marks or maybe fails. He does not regret choosing his career, it’s just that he needs someone to push him to work a little harder. a few days back I had a talk with him if he is upset or fed up with what he has chosen or if he’s lost interest or something. but that isn’t the matter. he wants this qualification and also wants to get into a high profile and interesting corporate job, but it’s just that because of his laziness he is not able to reach his goals. I clearly don’t want to force him and make strict schedules for him to study because I don’t think so that’s gonna be a long-lasting technique to boost him. I just want him to get motivated and make him productive and help him to get rid of his laziness.

I did make a conversation with them about what if I  like someone not now probably when I am around the age of marriage. And I approach them about it, before falling into a relationship. I didn’t mention about him. At first, they were little hesitated but later they were okay. The only condition was that I shouldn’t have the attitude of “I will only marry this particular guy”. They want it to be discussed together with them and fall into a final conclusion. They don’t like me taking the decision all alone because according to them as parents that’s the biggest responsibility and it is they who have to find someone for me and take the primary decision.

To be honest, I am not stubborn that I will only tie a knot with him. I still love him a lot and care for him a lot. But right now I am keeping this aside and focus more on to my studies and career. As you mentioned earlier no matter what happens, I will never run away from my house, move away from my parents for my own pleasures. I will always make sure that my parents become comfortable too for whatever decisions I make. Just worried as to how I can convince them at that age.

can someone please reply me as soon as possible because I am in a desperate situation for a wise opinion. It will be really kind enough to help me out.