I’m really sorry you feel like this. I think depression is an illness and needs to be treated. Anti-depressants have helped me to fight depression, and I’ve also had Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which can help. Counselling may be another option. You absolutely can get through it, but it is very tough.

I think you need to let go of your ex-partner and keep telling yourself you *can* be happy without them, but it will take time and effort and a willingness to change. This may be very difficult when you are depressed.

I was recently dumped and am still struggling but my relationship only lasted a short while. It was very important to me though, I hadn’t had one for 13 years before it. I really loved them and often fear I won’t find anyone else (I have chronic fatigue). I have had to accept that while they seem perfect for me, they don’t want me, so they cannot be right for me. I need love in return. I have realized that I need to change certain things in my life, and although I don’t particularly want to sometimes, I *have* to try new things and create possibilities for me to grow. I have to reach out and not fear rejection, or at least cope with it. Regularly reassuring myself, telling myself I will be happy, I will cope – this is helpful for me. I have lost touch with friends over time, but I am trying to send them messages and a few of them are responding.

Although it still feels weird, looking at a dating site (OK Cupid) is helping me look to the future, in time perhaps it could help you. It can also be painful but for me it’s part of my moving on. These articles have helped me, particularly the first one:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-a-past-relationship-10-steps-to-peacefully-move-on/
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-let-go-open-love/

Good luck. I hope you feel a little better very soon.