Hello Elle,

I am sorry you are incredibly depressed but the good news is that we are here to guide you and lead you back into light and love. You are never alone, there are people out there that love you a lot believe it or not. Sometimes we get so caught up with life that we forget we have people that have loved us along the way or in the past. We just forget that they were part of our journey. Never hurts to reach out to people you’ve lost touch with, as I’ve had many many friends that have lost touch with me and then a year or 2 years later they would reach to me/contact me by phone. A simple text message or phone call. People who go out of their way to contact you when they’ve lost touch with you, are people that truly love you & value you as person. Those are the kinds of people you always want to have around in your life forever.

It’s respectable if you want time alone but it’s also okay to reach out to a friend that loves and cares about you. I don’t ever look at that as a friend being weak ever or trying to bother me when they need emotional support. Everybody needs someone to be close to for awhile and spend time with, even if they aren’t depressed. When a friend is in need and she reaches out to me, I am always happy to be there as we all know what it’s like to go through rough times in our lives. Maybe you can get a hold of him and ask if you two can have a heart to heart discussion. It’s completely normal to miss him as loving him is now a part you. The people we have loved in our past, will always be a part of us/you no matter what happens in life. Never give up and definitely never give up hope because miracles happen every day and if you believe in love, than you shall receive an abundance of love back.

What you give out is what you receive, so just know that you are never alone. You are love & you are light! <3

There is so much more to life than ending it because you feel that nobody loves you because what I can tell you, is that love is all around you. Just open your eyes a little bit more and you will see that love awaits you. You are beautiful & you are love and you are also deserving of giving & receiving love. I am confident you will have the love you are truly seeking, as long as you believe you are deserving of it. It will be there for you always.

I am sending you a bunch of love, light, hugs and positivity your way. I believe in you, so NEVER give up.

All my love & light to you…Xo

Hi Elle,

I would make a list of all the things, people and places you liked before him. List thirty things/people/places!! I’m serious.

Then list thirty things, people and places you wanted or planned to see/enjoy in the future that have nothing to do with him!

When you do this you should feel an inspired burst of happiness and optimism.

Then, do and see those things/people/places!

Good Luck!

Inky

I’m really sorry you feel like this. I think depression is an illness and needs to be treated. Anti-depressants have helped me to fight depression, and I’ve also had Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which can help. Counselling may be another option. You absolutely can get through it, but it is very tough.

I think you need to let go of your ex-partner and keep telling yourself you *can* be happy without them, but it will take time and effort and a willingness to change. This may be very difficult when you are depressed.

I was recently dumped and am still struggling but my relationship only lasted a short while. It was very important to me though, I hadn’t had one for 13 years before it. I really loved them and often fear I won’t find anyone else (I have chronic fatigue). I have had to accept that while they seem perfect for me, they don’t want me, so they cannot be right for me. I need love in return. I have realized that I need to change certain things in my life, and although I don’t particularly want to sometimes, I *have* to try new things and create possibilities for me to grow. I have to reach out and not fear rejection, or at least cope with it. Regularly reassuring myself, telling myself I will be happy, I will cope – this is helpful for me. I have lost touch with friends over time, but I am trying to send them messages and a few of them are responding.

Although it still feels weird, looking at a dating site (OK Cupid) is helping me look to the future, in time perhaps it could help you. It can also be painful but for me it’s part of my moving on. These articles have helped me, particularly the first one:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-a-past-relationship-10-steps-to-peacefully-move-on/
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-let-go-open-love/

Good luck. I hope you feel a little better very soon.