Thank you Nina. Another thing I wanted to add. She was going to include me in helping her find her wedding dress so I thought we would have that bonding experience/memory as she didn’t incorporate me in any other way for her wedding (other than putting me to work making party favors for the tables with a couple of her other GFs). She cancelled the dress shopping date and said we would re-arrange. Then suddenly she called me and said “I found my dress!” So, on her own, she just went dress shopping and found the dress she ended up buying and totally excluding me.

She also was going to get together for lunch and cancelled a couple weeks ago. The last time we saw her she shared that the following week (after our scheduled lunch date) she had gone to lunch with her old boyfriend! She is newly married!! So, she likes to be with people who pay her way, and stroke her ego (like old boyfriends). I shared my feelings last night (the frustration about the wedding, etc.) but one can never really go there with people as they get defensive and have trouble owning what they don’t like that they do wrong (or what we think they do wrong). She made it about me and how it is hard to live up to my expectations. I don’t feel my expectations are out of line. If you verbalize you are a best friend, then act like one. You are right, her actions do speak louder than words and I need to pull back. Thanks for your time.

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