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August 11, 2020 at 4:08 am #364423
Dear Anita, maybe that I was emotionally attached didn’t make me realize the lies or I just choosed to ignore. I think realizing now would help me move on. Thank youAugust 10, 2020 at 3:04 pm #364361
Hello Anita, sorry I didn’t quote ur posts. I read them and replied in the recent post.
“If your boyfriend will not marry someone without his parents’ approval, and his parents stated that they will not approve of him marrying someone outside their tribe, and you are indeed someone outside their tribe, then you are indeed wasting your time with him.” I made him confirm and he said they don’t have a problem with it but the problem is really just with him. As much as I would like to know what’s wrong and see if we could fix things he says he doesn’t even know.
“reads to me that he had doubts about the relationship at the time that he lied to you about talking to his sister, that he wanted to communicate to you that there will be no marriage with you, but didn’t want to tell you directly, so he made up a conversation with his sister, and told you .. indirectly through a made-up conversation with his sister” Yes he has doubts and that was when he told me he doesn’t see a future and stuff.August 10, 2020 at 2:21 pm #364355
Hello, I’m still on this issue and it hurts that I have to be confused every time. So my boyfriend finally talk to his family about whether he can date someone from another tribe cuz I insisted and what he told me is that they don’t have a problem about it but he feels we ain’t that compatible tho language, i dont let him off my sight(yeah i know im clingy) and all but I told I told him I’m willing to make changes as long as they wouldn’t hurt and they’re not something so serious. Learning a language is fun anyway or so i thought Also, I could remember he once told me he doesn’t see future with me so I brought up again, asking why he said that but all he said is that he doesn’t really know that he just feel that way. Everytime I try giving space, we always end up back together, recently he decided we should break up, it was hard to accept on my part. I even tried negotiating! He suggested being friends. He said he wouldn’t want to make mistakes that he doesn’t see how we can work on our differences. I mean we’ve been dating for just 3 months! As much as I don’t mind getting married to him. Isn’t 3 months too soon for him to conclude that. I really love him, and most times i think he does too. I really don’t want to lose him. Do you think my boyfriend is scared of commitment or he just doesn’t like me enough. And why does he keep calling, talking to me like were still dating!! Do you think I should try no contact rule or we should just be friends. I’m confusedJuly 22, 2020 at 2:20 am #362356
Hello @Noor, thanks for your reply. Yeah he lied about telling me he talked to his sister but what he’s saying now is he’s having doubts about the relationship, that he’s confused about the whole thing and that he cannot to talk his parents yet about it cos I want him to actually find out if they’d actually accept me if things get alot serious.July 22, 2020 at 12:09 am #362350
Hello @Anita, he just opened up to that he never had any conversation with his sister, but he knows that something like that might happen and that he’s really in doubt about the relationship. Like do I really like him or its cos he’s available or something
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