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  • December 20, 2016 at 7:06 pm #123153
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    Thank you, Anita. You have been so kind to everyone of us for guiding us to go through the sad moments. Big Hugs, many thanks.

    December 20, 2016 at 5:05 pm #123138
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    As he has revealed his ugly secrets to me, i often have my doubts. Yesterday, he flied over wanted a meetup. I didnt go, i was hurt by his accusations.He didnt believe my words, he accused that i am using the same excuse to lie to him again. I swear i did not, i have proven my innocence but he shut me out.

    December 20, 2016 at 7:39 am #123082
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    I disappointed you all by forgiving him and give him a chance again. Yet the same thing happens again, slap me hard for being such a fool. He is hunger for sex, and I told him to look somewhere else, there are plenty women in his country, why come after me? He knew clearly I am annoyed by his sex cravings. Those women that he used to hang around with are still in contact with him, he claimed that he ignored them because he wanted only me. He blocked me online after I prove my innocence from his accusations. I feel so wrong, I wrote a short email to speak out my mind to end things.

    My feelings are badly hurt. Enough is enough.

    February 18, 2016 at 8:43 pm #96449
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    Seems that number of us went through similar situations. What I am saying is you are wasting a lot of energy and time on a person that doesn’t set you as a priority, and doesn’t see the importance of saying what he means. You will only be ended up with disappointment and sadness. If you see that he will be knocked out of senses by hearing your words, feel free to do so. But, what is the likelihood he will response?

    It may take him weeks to response but will he feel apologetic for what he has done? Mine won’t unless there are times he feels down and moody, then he will say sorry. It is useless, I am too tolerant and he took me for granted, things are always on his terms that I shut him out.

    February 12, 2016 at 4:49 am #95883
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    Anita, you are so right, I am too focused on him, he doesn’t want to change yet I want him to change for good. I care too much, I know I shouldn’t but I don’t want to acknowledge that he treated me like a cheapskate. He ever wanted me to be his girlfriend, but I told him to earn my trust first. I am willing to go to him as a close friend, I was so simple minded to think that we will be so happy to see each other, but my hope is totally crushed when he asked for sex.

    I am very clear I have to refocus on myself, not him, I had enough. It may be hard to totally get him out of my mind, but I need to love myself.

    February 11, 2016 at 5:05 am #95782
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    No, inky, I love to hear your views, his mind is full of sex and fantasies. Reaching puberty, he acted out of his sex fantasies, the ladies he seduces are willing to give themselves to him. There is no stop, this is how he grows up. He may be a sweet charmer, but his sexual demands are beyond my imagination. He wants the ladies to fulfill his needs, he thirsts for it, he pleads and begs for it. The ladies are willing to comply, wear sexy, that are the ladies. But, to me, I couldn’t bear the thoughts, two people comes together should be in love, show concern, care and respect n trust each other.. I too know there are times he wanted to let go but he is too deep in the mud

    February 11, 2016 at 4:12 am #95776
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    Thank you for giving me your kind thoughts and views. Yes, I keep giving and he keeps taking. I refused to give in to his sexual requests, he poisoned my mind, I always see the good in people, I chose to believe the good rather than the bad.

    He upset me many times, last year before festive season I made an attempt to fly to his country but I left with broken hearted. I tried to cut him out completely but I am too soft. Many times, I deleted him from chats, blocked him but ended up I still didn’t totally move on. Please tell me how to move on. I switched to swimming, doing things to occupy my mind..I have to learn meditate.. to destress.. I realize my smile is hone, I am in a depressed mode.. I cannot go on like this

    February 9, 2016 at 8:52 pm #95649
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    I contacted him after ten over years, I looked at him as a friend, but I was taken aback when he openly wanted sex. We are staying in different country, I met up with him and we didn’t have sex. Only after when I fly to his working country that we are intimate but not to the extent of having sexual intercourse, I am not ready for it. We have been texting each other for more than a year, I knew about his sexual secrets and all the while, I have been giving him moral support for making a baby steps of positive change.

    I was utterly upset when I realized he wanted to see me not simply to see me but for sex. I have been spelling out very clearly to him that I want a man who has a loving heart, who knows how to respect, show care and attention to others. He isn’t.. Love is special, I am not into casual sex, I reprimanded him many times for not showing respect to women. I couldn’t stand being threatened, that’s not the way to treat a lady at all! He hinted to me that other lady couldn’t wait to lay her hands on him, but he told me that he only wanted me. I told him off, I am not a sexual object to him.

    I pray that he will change for better, to be a better man.

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