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August 26, 2021 at 8:59 am #385325Relax Peace ClubParticipant
Hi @coconut I actually agree with you. What I am about to share is based on personal, similar to her situation. One thing I personally hate in a relationship is ego. I was once with a girl who always talked down on me and no matter what I did for her, the relationship kept getting worse. As a matter of fact, I reached the point where I was like ok, the more I do for her, the more our relationship goes down the spiral hole. So, I think if I was in this post’s author’s shoe, I would (And this is just me) try to give the new person a chance. Study him and see if the relationship would get serious. Because the ex is the person who she knows best. But she doesn’t know much about the new guy. Maybe the relationship gets more serious. So by seeing someone for 4 weeks, we really can’t say if the ex is the way to go or the new guy because let’s be honest, it’s 5 years vs. 4 weeks of dating.
So, yeah I think if it was me, I would’ve give more time to the new person.August 26, 2021 at 8:59 am #385328Relax Peace ClubParticipant
Hello Sarah. I wonder if I can share my story with regards to the point you replied to Linarra (Note: This is just my story and I am NOT providing advice here but I would love to elaborate on your reply). First of all I must say read the entire post from Linarra and that’s because I care and because I was in the same shoe as Linarra is. But with regards the following:
- “How can you positively reframe your negative thoughts? I.E “I’m not enough” versus “I’ve always been enough.”
with regards to how I reframed myself and my put away my negative thoughts, I must say, I leveraged my career as YouTuber, and computer coder.
I tried to be a professional in something or anything that people can appreciate. For example, I code for computers, make Meditation Music Videos for YouTube (https://bit.ly/3gCkJrX) and write poems. Please note that I don’t mean people like Linarra need to find a way to prove themselves to others. But what has worked for me was that I proved to myself. I proved myself wrong when I thought I am NOT good enough. The world is better than I am. Then once I figured out that I too can be successful in something I enjoy doing, I leveraged it to open this pathway mentally which leads me out of loneliness. I gained confidence, was able to trust myself more.
Then I started finding people in the same topic to communicate with. For example, I begin to talk with computer engineers, YouTube creators and this is what worked for me and now, after several months of communicating professionally with others, I have made friends at personal levels. Because its easier to make friends with people when you have something in common with them.