And reading about stamps

Ok, coming from a closed minded, rigid, over simplified person,

If this guy is still married but separated that sorrowful to hear. Ok sounds like he’s married, and has a mistress, gets divorced? seperates and you are next. You do most of the work. Just from your standpoint, maybe not being in the same bed is good because it tests the relationship past the physical part, the down side is its lonely. Something must replace it. If its difficult to relax, there is a great book called leisure the basis of culture. In our western world, we must accept that leisure is a part of the culture. So if your really committed, see what is enjoyable for you both, whether it be watching sports or playing cards. Something where you can both relax, have effortlessness, which is easier said than done. If your response is “how can we have leisure when we are building the house aka working towards a common goal,?” and rightly so, if its time to work its time to work. This is not lightly pushed aside. If your life is past what is bare existence and you can assess your intellectual, moral and spiritual assets(no small task), then leisure must be looked at. Celebration is the soul of leisure. See what your common belief is and celebrate that. If there is none, pray for one. If you have the time see if you can take a class together, and attend a church together, where pieper says true leisure exists. The relaxing acceptance of church and being in common with others is intended to be a liberating experience that builds relationships and community and you may even make some new friends!! And hey you have some friends here too., so in the name of fred, keep on rollin baby, pre 9-11, check out those towers

-chris