First, please breathe. What you are feeling right now is ‘withdrawal.’ You were addicted to the hope he gave you, and that hope was snatched away in the most brutal, public way possible.

It is important to realize that you were not in love with him; you were in love with a character he played. The man who loved you and promised a future didn’t exist—if he did, he would have protected you from that ugly confrontation, not used you as a shield to prove his loyalty to his girlfriend.

On the closure you’re seeking: You are looking for him to admit he lied, but his silence and his coldness are your answers. He is showing you his true character now: he is someone who protects himself at the expense of everyone else.

On the social media pain: Stop looking. Every time you check his page, you are re-traumatizing yourself. Those ‘happy’ photos are a facade built on a foundation of broken trust. Even if they stay together, their relationship is now filled with suspicion and monitoring. You have been ‘discarded,’ but in reality, you have been released. >
You are the only one in this triangle who is now free to find an honest, transparent love. Use this time to ask yourself: ‘Why did I feel I only deserved the crumbs of a secret life?’ Heal that part of you, and you will never find yourself in this position again.

You are worth more than a ‘situationship.’ You are worth being someone’s first and only choice.”