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October 2, 2013 at 12:47 pm in reply to: Really Need some constructive advice and insight please. #43119
Thank you for your reply. I know we are both very unhappy he wants love, hugs, cuddles, and of course sex. I do not go there anymore because I need emotional and mental stimulation and I do not get that. I am not playing tit for tat. It is just that I do not feel loved or stimulated to go there with him anymore. He also refers to sex as f….ng and I really hate that make me feel like I am just a body to him. The fact is it feels that way too.
I have to be honest tho I am very demanding as I want and love to have the house very need and tidy. I will never even leave a teaspoon dirty and not put away. I do not think I have OCD but I like order. I feel uneasy if I have a mess around me. So I know I am not easy to live with.
Thank you for replying and giving me some insightOctober 2, 2013 at 7:08 am in reply to: Really Need some constructive advice and insight please. #43107
Yes thank you that really did help a lot. The thing is maybe I will never ever find a man that will be what I am looking for. Damn I have had so many relationships and I somehow never feel fulfilled or I feel I give to much and get too little back… Why is it that men think sex is everything and as long as they have sex the relationship is working. To me the biggest turn on is mental stimulation and seeing somebody that wants to grow as a person. Is it that I expect a man to also want to become more tuned into the reality of life???
This man has to drive a BMw and wear Ralf Lauren clothes and Ray ban glasses, He has to drink every night and the only thing he ever enjoys watching on tv is football. I find that so damned shallow and silly. How do I find a person with norms and a need be wanting change and growth.
Why is that so hard to find?????October 1, 2013 at 7:55 am in reply to: Really Need some constructive advice and insight please. #43047
For the replies I really wanted to get more just to understand if the feeling and the emotions I have is wrong. I maybe I have no understanding of how a relationship works. I am in a confused place at the moment. If we have only been together for a year and some months does that mean we are just never gonna work if we already is so much tension and issues in this relationship????? Is it because I need and want to much from a relationship. Should I as he always says that I should just except him for what he is when it does not gel with who I am.
Should I cut my losses and just get on with my own life. I really need some help here PLEASE.