Hi Shelli,

I am so very sorry for the heart ache you are going through. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. Please know that you deserve much much more out a relationship..

My dear friend always says to me, “right now you have an ex boyfriend shaped hole in your heart, and eventually, one day that hole will shrink, and be filled with memories with someone else who is much more worthy of yourself” I really do believe that. Even though it’s 2.5 years later, and that hole doesn’t feel to have gotten any smaller; I know it has. The easiest way to let go of someone, is to fully let go. Start over. Get rid of things that remind you of him, delete his facebook, his twitter, and his number out of your phone.. Even those tiny social media connections; even though they seem so large… and heart breaking, it will be a bit easier to start your healing process. I actually had to have my best friend delete my ex bf off of my twitter account for me, because I was terrified to make that “break”.. It’s also freeing in a way.

I am sending you all my love, my support and positive vibes to you, Shelli. And know, you aren’t alone.

Thank you Sahara.

Some days it’s hard to remember to love myself. I let the negative parts of my old relationship, eat away at me.. As though there is something wrong with me, and that’s why he did what he did.

One day at a time, one foot in front of the other. I just moved to a new part of the city and I am looking so forward to drowning myself in the culture and nature that surrounds me.

Hi Jessica,

I hate to say I’m glad someone knows what I’m going through, since heart break is never fun. Although, at the same time, I’m happy I’m not alone… It disgusts me that people like this exist; people that don’t realize the effect they have on others, and how their actions can really break a person down. I’m happy to have gotten out of that relationship, and it definitely made me realize what I won’t settle for, and exactly how I want someone to treat me. I just don’t have it in me to be open to someone else. It scares me really, because I don’t want to be alone and I want a family in the future..

You’re right, everything DOES happen for a reason, which is what I’m trying to hold onto. That this was a lesson, and that because I am a good person, I am deserving of love.