Hi Staples, thank you for your post. Both my partner and I are in counseling on an individual and in marriage counseling. The post above does not adequately express the work I and her have done since the affair ended last August. Am I anxious? Yes. Is she? Yes. We have worked together to help each other’s own insecurities and anxieties. I get that infidelity creates a whole new marriage and we are working to figure out what that looks like. We are committing to working through our issues individually and together. Since the affair happened, my father passed in late February and life is changing in a lot of other ways as well. We are both trying to work through our own issues, healing together and individually. I feel like it is important to focus on ourselves and each other and that works for us. One affects the other, in my humble opinion.