Dear Lara sharp:
Thank you for explaining what you meant by narcissist: lying to you about his morals, beliefs and personality, pretending to be different from who he was, being passive aggressive (the silent treatment, disappearing…), not helping you at all with household work, paying nothing toward bills, outings, etc., even though he made good money, buying alcohol with your money, cheating on you while accusing you of cheating, starting arguments, and so on. Too bad you and your children suffered his presence in your lives for so long. I do hope you heal and recover.
Post anytime. Best to you and your children-