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  • January 21, 2015 at 6:22 pm #71756
    Scottieflying
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    Thanks Sunfl0wer!

    He is always very apologetic when he realises he missed something or messed up.. and I HATE making him feel guilty for something that I KNOW isn’t his fault. But I appreciate the insight that he should take responsibility for finding strategies to accommodate.

    I really just don’t know how to deal with expressing my disappointment while still understanding that his intention is not to cause me harm, and then when he messes up he already feels crappy, without me adding to it!

    I feel like it’s MY expectations that should be adjusted??

    January 21, 2015 at 1:37 pm #71739
    Scottieflying
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    Wow, It’s like I could have written this myself… I feel for you!

    The only advice I can give is, if you have to beg, cajole, manipulate, incentivize, or any other thing like that, then it’s not real….. I’m learning that the hard way. If you are not offended by swearing, this is a great article: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes

    However, the move to another country isn’t just about you, it’s about a job too, and about leaving behind things too… it’s not JUST about being with you, or not being with you, remember that.

    Good luck xo

    October 20, 2014 at 4:17 pm #66527
    Scottieflying
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    I posted a similar question to this…. I believe in giving love unconditionally too… but perhaps giving it in the wrong way, or too the wrong people, or not able to recognize or accept it coming back.

    The co-dependency article above was very helpful. I just need some help to break the cycle. Any thoughts?

    October 20, 2014 at 9:42 am #66516
    Scottieflying
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    Thanks for the good advice… it’s so easy to get swept away in a new romance!

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