Hello,

You are not being unreasonable. These are adults living in your home. They should be able to stand on their own two feet and provide for themselves and not leech off of you. Just allowing them to live there is going above and beyond, however…I understand no one at that age wants to live at home IMO (unless they are just really into living at home). I’m sure they feel less than because they are dependent on you for support. Granted I am not excusing their actions, but I understand that they may be on edge and feel as if they have no privacy or space that they may want. The fix to this problem is them getting out of your home. This is a hard spot to be in but I feel that should they ever leave your home, the relationship between you all would improve. They are adults without being adult if that makes sense and I feel living with your parents at such an age keeps you in a teenage rebellion stage of relationship with your parent.

Help them by perhaps not helping them so much. Don’t feel guilty for making them pay rent. Maybe refuse to drive them so much. They should be doing these things for themselves and they need to get their own place and stand on their own feet. Everyone else has to why can’t they?

Good luck. I know it’s hard.