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September 14, 2013 at 8:03 am #42229StacieParticipant
I don’t believe that you are out of options for yourself. It sounds to me like you’re the typical wife of an alcoholic. Your husband is fighting a battle that hasnnothing to do with you. That is, it’s not “personal”. Alcoholism/addiction is vicious on the soul and you’re the closest person to him so he’s going to project what he feels about himself on to you. You can change eveything about you and still, he wont be satisfied.
We loved ones of alcoholics/addicts are battling our own sickness. We lose ourselves to our addict/alcoholic and his/her disease and it’s just as destructive to our “self” as our loved ones drinking/drugging/gambling is to them. You need to work on Lisa and ley your husband fight his battle. It’s easy to say, I know. I think you should look into Alanon or CoDA (codependency anon) meetings. You’ll find you’re not slone, you’ll work on you and you’ll grow and change, and you’ll mske friends and build a support system.
I know firsthand how hard it is to love someone who’s battling addiction, your own recovery isnt going to be easy but it’s worth fighting for.
I wish you the best.April 7, 2013 at 11:02 pm #31951StacieParticipant
I cant remember ever not feeling lonely. I’ve self-medicated and stayed in relationships I shouldn’t have as a result and I am only now learning healthy ways to manage it. I struggle with a “higher power” because I am a deist, but I’m trying to get past that and find a connection. I read a post on tiny buddha in Oct of 2011 and because of it, I was finally able to end my 16 year long emotionally and physically abusive marriage. Since then, I’ve been reading posts 3-4 times a week and I will continue using the site to aid me in my recovery from both substance abuse and codependency.
I look forward to reading and learning from these forums. 🙂