What has helped me go through this process is the “survivinginfidelity.com” they have forums where you (the betrayed partner) can scream, cuss, vent, cry, laugh, nothing is off limits. You can say what you need, nobody there will judge you, they give you positive areas to look at in the site that will help get the pain to subside. They also have places where the cheating person can vent (you can’t respond to them if there is a stop sign.) The cheater hurts too, especially if they are trying to save their marriages. This is a PROCESS that takes time. Yes, I know there are some people that simply don’t get “bugged” by being betrayed. I’m NOT one of them. We (men & women) handle the betrayal of their partner (wife, husband, etc.) pretty much the same. It rocks your very foundation, the person you trusted the most in this world has stabbed you in the back. Some of these relationships CAN be saved, but it takes work. I did get revenge, but not in a physical way. I wanted her to hurt as much as I do and she does. I was told “this won’t make you feel better” well that wasn’t my experience at all, once I destroyed her career, her marriage, then I felt I could move on and work on me. I don’t like that fact that I HAD to do this to move on. The OTHER person, or even your partner ISN’T the issue here, it is YOU. How to heal the pain in your heart, in your soul.

I’m pretty sure the ONLY way we can find PEACE is to do this course. Nobody can heal us, it has to come from within. I have so many other “stressors” hitting me while going through this, very painful things, but I’m focusing on ME! It is OUR time to feel better and kick the resentments to the curb. They really will poison us, what’s worse is the people that have hurt us is oblivious to the turmoil inside of us (unless you are trying to reconcile.) I’m starting the journey, and I’m serious about making the changes I need to do so I can STOP HURTING….. You can do it!