Thanks indeed for your sympathy. Making friends is really tough for me. I tend to be silent and speak to myself. It’s mixed feelings. It’s hard to believe but when I see moms and dads who are similar to mine it hurts me a lot. I can’t describe my feelings. The reason why I replied you late is that I am to depressed these days. I don’t answer my other friends either. Sorry if I’m too late to reply to your message.

Sure. Actually, I lost my dad & mom within six months. These two years were the toughest moments of my life. I couldn’t eat or focus on my life, so I decided to immigrate to another country. The issues of getting visa also added to my burdens. And that girl showed up once in a while but I ignored her. Finally one of my friends told me that she married someone who is a banker and is rich.

Hi Jan,

It’s been a week now since I talked to her. I’m accepting that she’s not the girl I am looking for. I have made up my mind. Ignoring is the best strategy, I think.

Dear Jan

ThankTThank you for your sympathy. I live in a country where it’s not an unpleasant thing to get married your student. I mean that’s not a weird thing. The point is that she continues saying hi and calling from time to time. You know, to enter university she should pass an exam, I mean an entrance exam. That’s why she stopped sending message last year. She only wanted to focus on her studies. After 9 months, she texted me and we talked. I should find a closure. I mean, I should find an excuse to move on. She called me the other day and said someone had proposed her. He’s an employee and blah blah blah. I said so what? You just say other people propose you qnd you still call me? Is this a normal thing? I think she’s still too young and she doesn’t know what’s going on!

Thank you Jan and Anita. This is a forum and we are here to just talk and solve our problems in the first place! Talking harshly is not what I’m looking for. I’m here to tell my story. I’m a human! You’re a human! We both make mistakes like the harshly speaking of you! Criticizing and harshly speaking makes one feel worse! Thank you Jan. I don’t intend to write anything here any longer! But your response made me rethink! I can still find some hope!

I mean I live in a country where everything should be done in a secret way. From relationships to things like wearing more revealing things it should be done in a mysterious way! That’s the rule! Anyway, I’m not meant to bother you or anyone else with my story. I was here to sympathize! To get help not to feel worse! Because I think the way how you respond to my comments are filled with anger! I was here to get help not to feel sadness. When you feel devastated you need to heal! That’s the univeral language that everyone owns!

Thank you Jon and Anita for replaying back. Anita you’re absolutely right. I’m alone and totally clueless of relationship world. I really liked to be with someone who had lots of things in common with me. I know it sounds ridiculous to date with your student. But I fell in love with her. I mean I’m not merely sexually oriented to her. It’s just beyond sex.