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November 1, 2022 at 7:04 pm #409447
Hi Anita! I’d like to thank you for pointing out the run on sentences. The thing that struck out was I was experiencing anxiety as I was typing. I hadn’t even noticed that at all. I’m appreciative of people such as yourself that point out that type of stuff because it’s important to me. As I’d rereading my response to you I’m in agreement with you it was really unorganized and difficult to understand. I want to say that I’ve been working with the therapist I’ve got currently for over 16 years, she’s got a PhD in Psychology and she’s also a Traumatologist. She’s imperative in my life as I don’t ignore my mental health and I face my struggles head on. I’m definitely struggling with my physical symptoms as far as my panic disorder is concerned I will attest to that as well as the writing reflects that as well. I also wanted to just let you know I’ve got a meeting scheduled tomorrow morning with my son’s high school to coordinate and hopefully find a solution within school to help him get up to speed with his courses which if not I’m going to have to think of an alternative option to solve the problem. I will be honest and thank you again for your observations regarding the writing because it really helped me to see clearly how my own emotions can just become so overwhelming at times that I have to really pay more attention towards them and regularly try mindfulness and other skills in my toolbox of skills that I implement in regards to my regulating my emotions. I also have to thank you for your support, and feedback. I found it incredibly helpful and I didn’t feel so alone. Hopefully we can chat on the future. For now I’ve got to go back and finish my schoolwork before I head to bed. I wish you a peaceful night and sleep well. Goodnight. Thanks again.
lori.October 30, 2022 at 4:02 pm #409360
Hey Anita ,
I’m not really sure what time zone you’re actually in I’m in ny so it’s EST, anyway I love some of the excellent stuff wadded to help myself practice and get prepared. The #Z1- thing As my therapist of 10 years ago told me: when your anger is up, your IQ is down. Anger interrupts and suppresses intelligence, that’s just the way it is.
this is awesome and really does make a huge amount of sense I’ve already tried it and it works. Thank you very much.
so I’m thankful so much for your support. I don’t have friends and you’re right I never feel safe we’ll sometimes I may be calm but I’m always in survival mode right cause that’s how we survive. But I just am really doing my damndest to keep controlling myself and using any mindfulness skills I can use to not let my feelings or anger affect him however I know he senses it he’s a very intelligent kid. Anyway today is my birthday and I have been really blessed with my health and my son I am feeling out of sorts but I’m just really staying connected with this page, reading blogs etc doing everything possible honestly. Anita thank you again your a really great person and I don’t even know you but I can tell that you’re very intuitive and real. I actually look for those special qualities in a friend because I value and an the same along with brutal honesty and I am a asshole sometimes I can admit that I am far from perfect I call myself perfectly imperfect!! Anyway I got mostly all the paperwork for the meeting. His anxiety issues is exactly why a psychiatrist will be speaking with my kid because he had this one Dr who I almost attacked after he told my boy at the tender age of 7 dad that my kid was going to become a most kids, loser, a truant, he’ll that he’s destined to fail! Oh AND , he’ll become addicted to drugs than most. Immediately I jumped over his desk and grabbed his tie I mean I lost it because I’ve never seen such unethical behavior in my life. I saw him the following week and I caught him before he could escape inside his nasty stink office I whispered to him just because you’ve got a degree doesn’t make you intelligent and also it’s a very good thing I don’t smell booze on you and then he reacted immediately and shouted Security they came I dgaf because my son was crying until he fell asleep, I told security that he was a drunk and when he seen my poore baby that he said directly to my child’s face he’s gonna be nothing but a loser I think he was drunk and if you don’t use your breathalyzer on him I’m calling the police on him he in no way has the mental capacity to treat one single soul he’s damaging and hurting ppl that’s dangerous for ppl like my kid and it’s just unacceptable and if he wasn’t immediately placed on leave and then it just kept going so tomorrow girl trust me before he even got a question to ask I’m interviewing him period and especially if they speak about medicine because of the length of a psychiatric history (because my mother was so embarrassed of me), I’ve been had 57 different mental illness diagnoses from the DSM, really I was getting legally high I was bugging cause I didn’t care if I died did anything and everything man I’m just grateful I had standards and morals and values idk where they came from but I’ve always been kind. There’s not enough kindness in today’s whole world. I got mad heart and I’m loyal caring etc girl I trust that you might know where it came from cause my parents weren’t like that at all. Anyway I’ve gotta many baby his favorite dinner. I’ll definitely finished with everything I’ve got ready for the meeting and take your advice and I’m going takee a i screenshot of that quote from your therapist I think it’s wonderful. I’m really almost completely done with everything needed for the meeting however your right an agenda nigh help me not lose my shit. Ok so grit it. Thanks queen! This is incredible and I am very grateful and thankfuly for your support. Thank you so much and your a truly beautiful soul and I feel lucky we’ve connected. I’m glad I took the risk. Ok goodnight. Lori. 🌹October 29, 2022 at 12:57 pm #409315
Hi Anita! Thanks for reaching out that means a lot. So you wanted clarification on a few things because I have Cptsd and a panic disorder so when I left I did everything the same including his sleep schedule day care everything. I got a fucking therapist (cursing towards his ass, I apologize for the rude response), I made double sure to not just provide and protect but prevent the worst possible scenario when I was in the situation I’m thinking I don’t want this to screw him up so when they’re young like that they aren’t very serious it’s a much more pleasant experience for the kids because they interact through play therapy. It worked until she suggested medication to which I said ya just no bye and took my time. Unfortunately some trauma happened to my child when he was only 6, I’m speaking as a survivor as a trauma patient but this killed my soul so immediately after the police eventually the mf got off because his brother erased the video of the actual incident and then he was represented as a home owner while I’m lying because I’m jealous and crazy ya know the corruption in the mf justice system but I’m grateful that the detective assigned was a mom because I almost went to prison and she saved my son and I. So then I found a real social worker not a psychologist I mean he’s only seen one shrink his entire life, no medicine ever, he’s a very strong independent young man who is quietly slowly shutting down because he’s suffering from severe mental health issues and I don’t feel comfortable disclosing because it’s awkward but to clarify the difference between a social worker and a psychologist is starkly different. Social workers are and have a Tom of more opportunities or effects that work rather than just talk therapy and I always interview every person who is a dr that’s meeting with my child. Hey I know I’m mentally handicapped but I’m not unstable ok I take medication every day I go to my therapy I apply my mindfulness skills so I can show him the best version of my motherhood and I want him to understand how you have to just show up or communicate ya know. So hopefully I answered your questions and I would really like to take the time and thank you so much and the saddest part is I’m completely shut down that I can’t even look or read the compliments or the nice words and points you were making I had rushed through but that’s ok I’ll try again. Thank you. Your a bleed woman who made a difference in my life today and i thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️. Ty. I’m crying now so I just got to get through tonight then tomorrow I’m mainly focused on his life because unless he’s exactly where he wanna be and he’s feeling comfortable until this happens I’ll not stop being an advocate or voice for my son. The saddest fact is that the districts in f NYC AND NY period treat you like y’all share custody no I don’t think so. I have a plan I’ll be meeting again at the school this week I’ve already started the list and he is the one who came to me a year ago asking if I knew anything about social anxiety um ya hi I’m the definition so when he kegit stated mom I think I need more help. To me I’m not a fan of a pill making things disappear it doesn’t work like that so I’ll be interviewing that dr and if anything is suggested for my son we’ll make a very informative decision because I’m still concerned regarding his brain development and health. All in all you made me smile thank you I have a plan pretty scheduled out to and unfortunately due to my pathetic past I know about medication all too well. Ok you stay blessed and healthy and have a wonderful weekend. !🌹October 29, 2022 at 9:10 am #409291
I just wanted to express to you my deer empathy towards you and your family in this matter. I’m also a mom a single one of a teenager whose life just got off track a bit as the Pandemic hit. So the reason why I’m replying is because now that my child has been back to his high school in his JR year , after the first two weeks he has not been attending. I get out of bed at 6 am ya know the routine and he’s almost 6 feet tall so there’s not much I can do, except for speaking with him openly and encouraging him to keep open communication, although when you’d mentioned in your conversation that you assumed manipulation tactics I am curious sometimes because I know this generation of kids has grown up on an abundance of technology and then during lockdown they were in their rooms getting more experienced on their devices. Just wanted to share that I am a mentally I’ll individual and I do exactly what I’m supposed to do because if my mental space is compromised I can’t be good to me therefore in turn how good can I be as a mom which is my entire world! I treat it like this disease it is. I have had a very difficult week with my own anxiety over this situation as well because in the last week alone his behavior has gotten worse than better it switches from being in school getting home not even snacks and passing out until the next day and is then unable to get up then back to hyper behavior on his PS4. I thank you for having courage to share because you’re not alone in fact I personally feel it’s not discussed enough. This has become an increasingly important topic and as a parent I don’t know what to do regarding my situation besides everything that I am currently doing. Ive had him in therapy so he’s making sure to check in with me too. I just feel so sad because he a very good student who cares about his education and intends to become a teacher and I know that he’s suffering from anxiety but I’m not sure which disorder because I’m no dr . So again , my point is I’d like to personally thank you because I have felt so alone and his dad doesn’t have a relationship with him so he is zeroed out of this and no family it’s tough but I remain hopeful positive and a strong as a parent but kind of a friend as well. The fact is he’s a teenager so he doesn’t exactly know how to cope with everything and he’s trying to be strong. The current things I’m trying to do are like keep my household quiet and calm, I give him plenty of space, I tell him ok I’d like to check in sometime today please let me know when you’d like to talk, I help in whatever way I can. It affects us and our emotions as parents. I just can relate with how much you’re concerned and that is why I replied. Again I want to thank you for your kind words and I think you’re courageous to bring this up and also ask for help. Best of luck with your family.