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April 4, 2013 at 9:50 am #30543Stephen LightParticipant
Thank you Jarl
Today I read some interesting facts – see below:
For Your consideration:
Fifty one percent of all first marriages end in divorce
Sixty six percent of all second marriages end in divorce.
Ninety percent of all third marriages end in divorce.
The picture becomes even more troubling when you also take into consideration three other important factors:
- The statistics cited were gathered from men and women aged 15 to 44 years of age (the age range in which 99.7 % of all births occur) so not all divorces are even represented.
- The above noted statistics also do not address the rate of separation among couples that simply choose to cohabitate and then split up because no statistical data is gathered regarding this growing group.
- Here’s the “kicker:
Many folks choose to stay in what can only be objectively judged to be ‘dysfunctional marriages’ due to financial pressures, children, family pressures to stay together, societal stigmas and issues around divorce, etc.
When all of these factors are considered, perhaps one in ten marriages are truly happy, ‘functional’, and mutually fulfilling. – Ron Capocelli (http://inspiredcommitment.com/making-it-count/friendship-and-romantic-love-2/#comment-2415)
It makes me sad to see people have an inability or drive to work things out.
Love & Courage
Stephen LightApril 4, 2013 at 9:47 am #30539Stephen LightParticipant
This is the one feeling I try avoid. I try not let my children feel shame as I see it as a wasted emotion. Shame I believe makes us put ourselves down and we have had enough of that in our lives. I prefer to learn the lesson from whatever happened and move forward. Having said this, I do believe that all feelings have a role to play in our lives and I wonder what impact marginalising shame has on me?
Love & Courage
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