First, if you haven’t read If The Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl… do that. Secondly, consider reading Spiritual Partnerships by Gary Zukav. Those are books that helped me define exactly what deep, honest and healthy love looked like to me.
Lastly, I agree that if you come from a place of lack & fear, you are still in survival mode and the Universe (and your dates) know it. It’s obvious that you have the drive and the means to get what you want (11 dates in 7 months sounds like so much fun!). Perhaps, consider doing all the mental/emotional/spiritual housekeeping you possibly can, while keeping your heart open to love… Then just watch it all roll in!

love & light
-T